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Ws was to leave move out Tues., but the house was not ready. Having him stay around this last few days is really hard. The last two nights he has slept in a different room. Anyway - What happened when you stayed and helped of not help WS move out or did you leave. Please share your experiences. WS now has at least told his family.
Still trying plan a, but definately planning b soon.
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Either way it ain't easy.<p>My wife left for the second separation on New Year's Eve Day and I tried (during the week between X-mas and NY) to help her get some stuff togtehr and get packed up....very emotional and sad.<p>She hsad to get movers to pick up some stuff one day while I was at work right after she had moved out.<p>I came home to all the stuff missing, empty closets etc...pretty devastating.<p>If I were to offer an opinion, I guess it would be to not be there when he is hauling out his things....<p>Either way, I am sorry you have to go thru this...<p>Take care <p>E
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I think he is having a hard time finding someone to help him move the big stuff. I think it will be my son to really get a jolt when all his dad's stuff will be missing as he walks by everythin of his dad's when he goes to his room. I am trying to prepare myself for all of the triggers & not to LB. The only supportive person he has left in town has decided to be gone. Yeah for him! The rest of his friends know rumors, but WH has not told them yet. What things should I look out for?<p>WH presented me with a budget & his new address last night. I don't know. I want to be careing, but I also am being toren apart.
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Do not make it any easier for him then it needs to be. Take care of yourself as you are the only one who will.<p>Don't help him back. He wants to go? Let him do the work. I think that the advice of you not being there when he removes his stuff from the house is a good one. Or, if you are concerned that he will remove items that are yours, have one or more friends there with you. But none of you should help. Remember, he needs to see what life is like without you.
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zorweb has bgiven you some good advice on making sure he doesn't take stuff that you conisder valuable or not agreed upon.<p>I guess from my standpoint I would just say be ready to deal witht he emotional side of it.<p>If you aren't prepared it can be pretty tough. Even if you are prepared it is still difficult to deal with.<p>E
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