I just read information on why women leave a marriage and what husbands can do to get them back. Why husbands leave and how wifes can get them back is a different thing. Does anyone know what the differences are? And how does a wife get her husband to fall in love again?

alw3.. Welcome to MB. Im assuming since you are inquiring it has youched your life in one way or another. I'm sorry to hear it, feel free to "talk" about it here. Everyone here will do what we can to offer encouragement.<p>Getting back to your question: Why MEN cheat. I'm not a wayward spouse, but I've done my best to try to think in the shoes of one to understand my WW. As I understand it, the basic concept is not different. An A happens usually because something is missing in the marriage, the WH or WW seeks it elsewhere. What is "missing" may be real or perceived, "good" or "bad". But it is very real for the WS. I think it is more common for men to leave for SF (sexual fufillment) than women, though that is not always the reason. <p>My thoughts on the matter is everyone wants to feel loved and appreciated. They want someone to make them feel important, special and needed. What makes each person feel these things is individual. If I remember right, Harley states that in men the needs are usually higher for admiration, sf, and something else which I cant remember. You can check out the SAA book or click here on the website:<p>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5059_qa.html

On the left you will see several examples of "Unfaithful Husband" cases. I hope that helps.<p>God bless!

people (men and women) leave for 2 basic reasons IMO.<p>1. They are acting "out", that meaning they have some personal issues ranging from personality disorders (such as sexual addiction, or sociopathic behaviour)...to not having emotional needs met.<p>2. Or they leave cause they do not feel safe. It is critically important if a marriage has any hopes of recovery to make sure you (as the bs) are safe..... this is very hard, cause you may not be able to be the safe place no matter how hard you try, but one thing is for sure, if you are not looking at this, and trying to be safe, you never will be safe. From my observations over last 9 months, this is a huge problem for bs's.