<p>[ February 11, 2002: Message edited by: God is in Control ]</p>

First, let me say, you can't control other adults. You can only control yourself and that which you are responsible for.<p>But to the point of your issue with your H. It sounds a bit like you are making yourself too available to him. How about trying to be less available. As for the D issues, I hope you have a good lawyer. If you don't, please get one as soon as you can.<p>Regarding the issues with the kids. I 'm not sure which issues you are speaking of in particular. Maybe it doesn't matter, but I would suggest making some of these decisions on your own. Sounds kinda like you are doing that anyway so why are you so concerned about involving someone that appears to not wanting to be involved?<p>Just do the right things by the kids and when you get the chance, when he calls, tell him what has been decided on particular points.<p>He is likely to get upset at some point, but then he doesn't seem to want to be involved. Simply inform him that when he does, to let you know. But please don't wait around for him.<p>Hope this helps in some small way.
jdb