DD's spend weekend with WS and OW. <p>I made sure that I was not at home when he collected and dropped off the children. I don't know if it is because I am hurting so much and whenever I see him my emotions seems to go back into roller-coaster. That is why I avoided him. He did ask the housekeeper where I was. She said I was at work. Why still bother to ask if he don't even want to speak to me.<p>I'm having severe emotional feelings regarding moral values being taught by WS and OW to our DD's. I am a committed Christian and this is the strong moral values that I bring across to my children. WS and OW is confusing my children. WS told DD's that OW is his girlfriend and mummy will soon have a boyfriend. They now think it is fine to have boyfriends and girlfriends. My 3yo asked me who is my boyfriend and if I also kiss him like her dad kiss his girlfriend. This is so sick.<p>I'm fighting with the idea of packing up and turning my back on everything and moving about 700 kilometers away from WS and OW. Removing my children from this mess.<p>Is this another emotion I am going through. I feel that WS is removing the innocence of my children. All that we put into ensuring that our children had strong christian moral values has now fallen by the wayside. OW even told my 3yo that there is no God. When 9YO showed him her new miniature bible he said she must put it away.<p>How much more can I take - I've spend the whole night crying. <p>I want to give up and move on.

GinnyF,
I can do nothing here other than say hang in there and have you consideres counseling for yourself to help you ocme to grips with your possible solutions?
Keep looking for the "Daylight".
Brw

Please speak to a pastor, minister, priest about this, if for nothing else but to give you strength. However, they may have some advice about how you can combat this.<p>Don't be afraid to practice your religion in your home and talk to the kids about what you believe when these things come up. They will see a difference in your household and your WH's because it's hard to have a stable peaceful household when God is not involved.<p>Don't be afraid to stand up for your faith. You don't even have to say anything neg, about WH or OW, just teach the kids about the 10 commandments and they'll get the picture. You don't have to let the OW's words be gospel. <p>Keep practicing yoru faith in your house and the kids will come around. They see that daddy's actions are hurting you. K

{{{{{{{{Ginny}}}}}}}}<p>I agree with speakig to a pastor- it's a great idea. And, as I told you before I don't think you should move, don't let her win so easily!<p>Keep showing by example- kids are smart, and I'm sure they will see the difference between your house and his, and take them to church meetings and outings etc as often as possible. <p>What you are feeling is very normal, but hang in there- keep trying to plan A just as much as you can- which mostly means avoiding those LB's and keeping the door open, he is not letting you meet his emotional needs right now, but his asking for you tells me he has not stopped caring, which I could've told you.<p>The odds are this affair will end a natural death- keep your eyes on the long term goals, you can make it. Hang in there, and enjoy reading your books and spending time with your kids. Yo're doing great! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ January 30, 2002: Message edited by: ScaredInNY ]</p>