Hello again all. Please help understand what is going on. As I have said in a different post, last week I found out that my wife was still talking to OM. I have been thrown back into the paranoia I suffered after d-day 1 in Oct. More than anything I want things to work out.<p>This past Saturday was a bad day because of the stress surrounding all the talk about the A. I think it was also somewhat productive. We talked a lot about us not being able to really work on our relationship and our family until that contact stops and she admitted to knowing that to be true. I asked her "do you want things to work out with us?" and she said "yes" then she said
" and I (she) know what I have to do to make that happen." But she never said that she would or could actually do that. I tell her daily that I know how hard this must be for her and despite how painfull it is for me I want to be there for her even to help her deal with this. In the positive column, she calls and tells me her every move. She says that it is a pain for her to do but none the less she does it because she knows it makes me feel better. In the negative column, I am having a hard time re-trusting her. For instance, she says that she has not spoken to him since last Wednesday but I have a really hard time believing that. How can she not talk to him if her feelings are a strong for him as she says. I did really well with plan A but since D-Day two, I feel paranoia has crept in and has made plan A much more difficult for me to do...even though I really want to.