The first time I found out about A was Feb 21st. I am dreading that day like you wouldn't believe!! OMG I can't believe it has been a year.<p>I talked to him last night and told him that I was getting very upset thinking about the upcoming "anniversary". I asked him if we could do something to erase that memory and make a new one for ourselves. He agreed. So what are we going to do??? I'm not sure yet but I'm going to plan it out perfectly. <p>Maybe dinner, hotel, walk on beach, go shooting at the range (he likes to do that) I dont know....any suggestions?<p>I don't want to end up depressed on that day! He's even taking the day off... [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Maybe dinner, hotel, walk on beach, go shooting at the range (he likes to do that) I dont know....any suggestions?<p>
I know a hotel would be too painful for me and not that I am in any way a violent person, the range may be too tempting.<p>How about a nice meal and a family game or something like that. I don't know your family situation but I would include the loved ones that mean the most to both of you.<p>Good luck, I hope you can make a great memory.<p>Peace.

What did you do on your first date? Maybe you can relive that? I think a trip away from everything familiar would be nice. What state are you in?

I probably would have opted for sedatives and sleeping through 1st d-day anniversary! However, my H and I won't be together/married by the time the first anniversary comes around [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] <p>First of all, celebrate the fact that you and your H have committed to recovering your M, TOGETHER!!! I would have given anything not to have been in the recovery biz alone. Focus on that no matter WHAT you decide to do.<p>Maybe do something that the two of you have always talked about doing, just never got around to it? Otherwise the other suggestion to do whatever you did on your first date was a good one!<p>Praise God your story sounds like it's headed for success!!<p>MOM

margue,
My suggestion is try not to build up such hype about a single day in what will be the rest of your lives toghether. I too was a bit apprehensive about that aniv., but you know what?, The build up and fear of it’s arrival was so much worse than it actually coming. On my D-Day aniv., the sun rose in the east and set in the west. The sky didn’t fall, the earth didn’t shake and my W didn’t run back to OM.<p>If you do nothing else enjoy each others company and revel in the fact that your spending it together.<p>Just my thoughts,<p>os

Thanx for all the good words. It is a miracle that we're actually working through this!<p>I don't know what we'll do yet. I'm going to plan it so it is something that means something special to me. Our first date was to go to a singing competetion at church in our area. Then we went out with friends. <p>It was all very nice but I want something more for this one. I want to compeletely erase the memory of her on this day. So that years from now when I think of that day the only thing I will do it smile real big!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I think hotel, dinner, walk on beach (we live in South Florida) really great sex [img]images/icons/blush.gif" border="0[/img] and maybe breakfast in bed next day... [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>hhhhhuuuummmmm this could be interesting... [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I am thanking God everyday for "rescuing" our marriage and allowing us to recover from this.