My wife of 8 years and I are both in recovery from an A she had last summer. I have some mixed emotions about how the affair ended. I have done alot of reading about the subject, and have failed to find very much advice about when affairs end by the other person. So I am hopes someone out there can help me. The story goes... My W did not end the affair with her co-worker. I interferred and fought for my wife and our marriage. The guy she was seeing was a supervisor at her place of employment. Their flirting went on for several months while the intimate part only 2 months. When I found out about the A, I confronted my W and she confirmed it was going on. She was very reluctant to tell me about it. I also confronted him about it, of course there was the typical lieing, not telling the truth and even worse they still went on seeing each other. Well as it turned out the A ended. The main reason it ended is because his wife, me, and the 2 of them all met. My W had the pleasure of his wife telling her face to face of what it was like to have her thinking she was going to steal her man away. I made it so this meeting occurred between us all and of course my W and the OG were not happy with the meeting. My W had moved out into an apartment that was going to be there sex shack until i fouled things up. Anyway, she left our house after the meeting very upset, I was a nervous wreck. I thought I had really lost her now for really persuing her to come back to our life. Well as it turned out the next day she contacted me saying how stupid this whole or deal was and she wanted to work on us. I was floored, speechless, and of course could hardly contain myself. She stayed out of the house for 2 months and we seen a counselor and dated one another. She is now moved back into our house and we have a pretty good relationship considering all that has heppened. I cannot seem to get pasted a few things though. When I look at the whole ordeal I can see where she come back to me because I was all that was left over. He did not want her anymore. She went through the withdrawls and pain of her loss. So she says she loves me and only me and wants no one else in her life (all things said before A). How do I know that my wife isnt holding out for something better to come along? She says she is not and gets upset that I would suggest such a thing. The fact remains that she did not leave the relationship on her terms. She did move out of our house to persue a serious relationship with this guy. She is now back because there is no other reason for her to be on her own. I am so confused yet I want to give my all to this relationship in hopes she will regain a love for me and our marriage. If she would have ended the relationship and wanted me and our marriage back I dont think I would feel as bad. Please if anyone can offer some advice as to how to proceed I would be very grateful. Thanks!
