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My H can not understand what his little escapade did to me. He has never really been the compasionate type and in some ways I can see a difference, but there are times when I just don't know.<P>For example....when we have friends over and he gets a few drinks in him, he will always make some suggestive remark referring to his little A. It is never a direct statement, but always one in a round about way and the statements never have any remorse. I have asked why this always comes up and he states things like, it must be in my subconscious, or "I am just picking at you." Now why would someone want to keep picking after they have caused so much pain? He has even stated that he was going to go somewhere and try and find himself. My stars...it has been 8 months now since the fiasco, what is there to find?<BR>
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I dont know if this is your H's case but some people like to "push" to see how far they can push.<P>Try to see things from this mindset :<P>- I had an affair<BR>- I told my W about it<BR>- She didn't leave me<BR>- I make remarks about it<BR>- She hasn't left me<BR>- I get drunk and "brag" about it<BR>- She is still here<BR>- I pick on her about it<BR>- She hasn't gone<P>In this respect he could be like a little boy seeing how far he can push things and get away with it while still keeping you.<P>I hope it may help
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