My first time so excuse not knowing the apprevations. Learned Jan. 1 wife having a affair
with infidelity. We have not been having sex for almost 2 years. Hoping that we could work out issues. Been in Consulting for 8 mo. wife was having affair entire time during consulting but did not tell counselor. Went all the way to having sex on Dec 11th. After phone call from lovers wife on Jan. 1 telling me that her husband confessed the affair and loving my wife. Wife after 4 weeks still does not feel sorry for affair. Wants me to move out. Not talking or sleeping in the same bed. She is convinced that it is over between us. I am in the 3rd week of her stating she is not talking to lover and I am staying home. I was about to move out until I read the book "Surviving an Affair". Plan A stay for 4-5 weeks until she gets through withdrawl. She has stopped talking and is making being at home very uncomfortable. Should I stay 2 more weeks and how can I keep up my attitude.

First, why are you thinking of possibily moving out. She is the one who had the long-term affair.
Tell her that she can move out. Meanwhile get your self into counselling and start focusing on yourself. Exercise. Go out with friends to movies, and other social activities. Take up a hobby. Develop your own circle of friends. Even if you don't feel happy make yourself look happy in front of her. Develop an independent attitude. By doing all this you will become again the person that your wife fell in love with.

I'll second that advice - also try to follow the advice in the book SAA and on this site.<p>FInd out what your LBs are and try to fix them. Work on meeting her ENs - you canprint out the questionaires and fill them out as if you were her.<p>Also, get a support system in place - this is vital to a good plan A! Plan Aing is HARD WORK! You need the support of friends, family, and God to help you through this. <p>When you feel low - post on this site and let it out - not at your wife.<p>Do a search for new comers posts and there should be info. about the abbreviations and such.<p>Keep strong. Knoweldge is power, and be ready for months of a rollercoaster ride. You can do it. K