OK, here is my vent, please bear with me….<p>W called me last night to inform me that W's BF and her H are in the process of splitting up. This is the same BF who was having an A at the same time that W was. They were using each other as alibis while they went out on their 'dates'. I know a couple of times BF's H called the house asking if his W was over there. <p>During my snooping I found out that BF was heavily involved with her OM TOO. A lot of stuff happened between the two that I wish I never found out about. I asked W a couple of times if BF was having an A and she just said that it was a casual thing and it was over. I know that to be a lie. I promised W that I would not tell BF's H about the A and have had to distance mysef from him because I don't want to accidently tell him what I know.<p>I really like this guy, we have a lot in common (besides unfaithful wives). I get the feeling that he knows something is going on but doesn't want to accept the fact that his W is unfaithful also. How can he not wonder, his W and my W have been living parallel lives for the last 8 months. I'm feeling guilty about not telling him anything, it could have saved him a lot of pain and suffering these last months. And now this, I wonder what his W is using as an excuse, probably the "I love you, but I am not 'in love' with you" line as well.<p>And what makes this even worse is that the two of them are bar-stool therapists to each other. After DDay, W would go out with BF all the time to talk about their issues, said that BF was the only one she could confide in, kinda like her telling me that OM was the only one who understood her, that's why she continues contact with him. Hello, a spouse serves what purpose? Gawd, thats such a load of crap, why don't they see how destructive this is? Guess it didn't work all that well, maybe they should try something else, like real counselling and the Harley method. <p>Guess I am just venting. I'm really mad because here is another relationship that is going down the tubes because of infidelity and a WS who is unwilling to confess her A and try and reconcile the M. Just makes me sick, hopefully this will be another wake up call for W. Amazing how many lives can be destroyed by this crap, just unbelievable.
