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#973784 02/01/02 06:18 PM
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Are there any definate signs of an EA? I've read a list posted somewhere of symptoms of a PA and I'm just wondering if there is similiar info on EAs or if they may be similiar. <p>I'm almost positive that my H is not having a PA, but, it seems that a lot of these As are with co-workers and I know that he is attracted to a women that he works with. I've suspected his attraction for months because of "mentionitis", so I asked him about it and he said (with a little smirk), "I'd be lying if I said that I hadn't noticed her". Our marriage is unstable right now and I just want to know what I am up against. <p>Any thoughts????

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Signs of EA's<p>1. "mentionitis" Yep, that's one
2. cell phone bill is higher than usual and many calls all to same number
2.a. the cell phone bill is suddenly being sent to his work
b. he's using a phone card so you don't know how much he calls the OP
3. you find little gifts for another woman
4. he disappears for long periods of time when he didn't used to
5. If the EA is at work, he finds excuses to go in when he doesn't really have to
6. You discover events that you were both invited to, that he didn't tell you, and he went alone
7. new interests, hobbies, that didn't interest him before
8. you can't reach him at work or on his cell phone
9. he gets a private ICQ account or a new screen name and doesn't share the password with you
10. becomes protective of his car, his briefcase, his sports bag, wallet, address book
11. asks you who called you and why, but doesn't divulge this information when phone rings for him
12. stops looking you in the eye when he talks
13. suggests you get together with the family of his "friend" and you find yourself on the fringes of all conversation
14. tells you "we have separate lives. we don't even have the same friends. you can't dictate my friendships to me."<p>Anyone else?<p>[ February 01, 2002: Message edited by: Bellevue ]</p>

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Those sound about right to me.<p>I'd add....that WS doesn't want to hear what anyone else thinks about his friendship.<p>Dawn<p>EA's seem to be harder for WS to get over, as they don't see to be wrong to the WS.<p>[ February 01, 2002: Message edited by: daybreak ]</p>

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Thank you, that makes me feel better. As I said there is a definant attraction there, but, none of the other signs are there. He is still just as open with me about his whereabouts, etc...than he ever was. In fact, his boss had a party the other night and I was invited and we even shared a cab home with the woman, her boyfriend and another friend. I just let my imagination get the best of me sometimes and figured I should take my concerns to the experts. (I would insert a smiley face here, but I can't figure out how to make them stick...)


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