About 3 weeks ago I return a call to W @ 12:45 PM, She says she is outside of her office in the car having a panic attack, I calm he down and assure her everything will all right. Next day daughter (5) gets sick, I have the kids overnight and take care of her. The next AM she is still sick and I drop her off with W @ work. Earlier that AM, W and I have # 2 session w/ SH. These sessions stir up emotions in both of us. By 4PM W and Daughter are at pediatrician. W calls and is on the way home and says daughter has needed to go to the ped. For three weeks and she hasn’t had time to take her. I said BS, you make time for OM. Blah blah blah. Sounds like negligence to me. She is taking daughter home and they are going to bed, she is exhausted. Hmmm wonder what she was doing night before when I had kids. It’s my night, I said no way, she argues that daughter should be with Mom. I said no way my time. Fine I pick up daughter at W house, major argument. She is screaming at me as I stand in the front door and actually @ charged me.
I take daughter and pick up son at daycare. <p>Next day I keep daughter with me. W calls mid-morning and we get into it again. SH sessions have emotions going. I suggest she must stop seeing OM or we are wasting our time. It will end eventually anyway. Says she can’t because she thinks she is in love with him. But also tells me he broke up with her in November because he couldn’t handle the kids, but 10 days later called her back (horney I guess) . She never told me this before. I go ballistic, and tear her a new A#$hole. (If you don’t know she called me in November to work on M). I threaten to use daughter against him to break up relationship. She goes nuts and eventually hangs up. <p>An hour later she shows up at my door and is a mess, “you win” and is shakin and cryin, get my affairs in order. Hands me a bottle of zanac I gave her in November. You win, get my affairs in order.
She spends the next two days in my bed on zanac “sleeping it off” as she says. I take care of the kids, and schedule an appointment with the psyco-therapist. She goes and the therapist get her stable. She is in therapy now, 2-4 hours a week. I’m not supposed to talk to her. I met with therapist twice. She has me in plan A, she calls it “Mr. Clean.” I don’t know if W is seeing OM, therapist “doesn’t recommend it”. I don’t know what W told OM or anyone else. I try to avoid W and not speak to her; I really don’t want to talk to her at all. She initiates all contact. She has been calling regarding the kids and tries to talk about other stuff but I just hurry off the phone. I’m really angry and I’m protecting her from me I guess. S Harley says to treat her like a queen. <p>Not sure why I posted, just needed to vent. But I’ve been very angry lately.<p>[ February 03, 2002: Message edited by: dadoftheyear ]</p>
