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This is something I shouldn't know if I should even do or not. I believe since I am still in Plan A that I should do it and that is send my wife (WS) flowers to her work for Valentine's day and her birthday (2/21). What should I do? Yes send them or no don't send them?
I know this is one of her EN's I was not meeting in the past and that was getting flowers especially at her work.
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I'm in the same quandry but figure how can you go worng if you do send them?<p>If she is happy about it, swell...<p>If not, your no further off than if you didn'ty send them...<p>I say do it...<p>E
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I'm in agreement with ELad. <p>If you don't send them she may perceive it as an LB ... <p>And as far as the card, welp ... just sign it<p>"Love, Confused_Guy"<p>oh, wait ... BTW, I am female, so I know about these things, albeit, I don't know anything about being a WS tho.<p>[ February 04, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>
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SEND THEM! <p>my STBX hardly ever sent me flowers unless he was out of the country on a specail occasion but he learned his lesson & sends to OW all the time [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img]
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by sing: SEND THEM!<p>my STBX hardly ever sent me flowers unless he was out of the country on a specail occasion but he learned his lesson & sends to OW all the time [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <hr></blockquote><p>Well HE SUCKS then Sing!!!! [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] Grrrrrrrr!<p>Tell ya what, I'll send you flowers if you'll send me some. We can do it electronic, then we save $$$.<p>Whatcha say?<p>Jo
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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Resilient: <strong><p>Well HE SUCKS then Sing!!!! [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] Grrrrrrrr!<p>Tell ya what, I'll send you flowers if you'll send me some. We can do it electronic, then we save $$$.<p>Whatcha say?<p>Jo</strong><hr></blockquote><p>sounds good to me but I am broke and I do mean broke but I can send you a card
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send them. She is still your W despite all that is ongoing and you love her, right? Unless she specifically told you not to send them. If your attempts at being loving before have been rejected as "Too much" for her now, then still send them but tone it down a little. Maybe empasizing friendship and commitment to her instead of love, or gerber daisies instead of roses. that type of thing. I think its important to remind her you still care or are thinking of her. Even if they keep rejecting us, as a BS trying to win them back we still have to offer or try to.<p>PLUS if the A is still on going you know the OM will do something and you don't want to add reasons why she thinks OM is more romantic or in love than you are.
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