Help, I know she has one of the happy stories out there but had a hard time finding it.<p>Can some one give me a link to Lor's story!!!<p>Thanks, Dawn [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img]

Here is the turning point of their way to recovery, if I remember correctly. You can do more searches in recovery for their progress. You can also read up on Guard's posts, if you can find his member number.<p>I will post in recovery for Lor to see if we can get you more links.<p>Kam6318, Lostva(Lori),FaithHopeAndLove, Dazed and Confused, K, Mike C2, Karenna and lots more are all sucess stories if you just want those. If you are looking for something specific I can try and help more, just let me know.

Raskal,<p>Thank you so much for the link. We found out that we are located in the same town, through someone's thread about the super bowl.<p>Do you know where Venatari's from? I do!!<p>I knew she had an interesting story but when I went looking it didn't take me back to when she was first starting here on MB. So I appreciat e your help!!<p>Dawn [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Hi Daybreak,
You can't get back to the beginning of my posts, or I believe any posts prior to 4/99 because the board crashed, crashed and crashed again.<p>Here's the basics, and I'm starting to forget dates, so it may be off a month or so here and there:
4/98 H began PA with co-worker, I believe EA going on before that...I met her 10/97 and she was smarmy/nasty to me. H would deny any affair until 1/99.<p>8/98 first separation
11/98 first reconciliation. Seeing a bad counselor.
12/98 2nd sep right after Xmas. I began posting on MB
1/99 2 weeks later he told me about the A. I ultimatumed. He moved home. We tried a version of Dave Carder's TORN ASUNDER 90 day plan, only 6 weeks because H had a school to go to the beginning of April. Contact with OW was sporadic.
4/99 3rd sep, he moved out the day before leaving for his school. I began seeing a Christian Counselor.
4/99 Came back from school to home. Back in contact with OW (I didn't know, he would deny this until August). We tried an in house separation. Horrible.
5/99 4th sep
6/99 back in
7/99 5th sep. I discover through friends he's been seen with the OW quite a bit. Another ultimatum.
8/99 back in. We go as a family to Disney World. H tells me he will move out when we return.
10/99 6th sep. OW is dating H's housemate (they marry fall 2001) I'm starting to lose interest in Plan A.
11/99 H says he really wants the marriage, I say you better not just be coming home for the holidays like you did last year.
1/00 7th separtion. He's not living at the OW/Housemate place. 2/00 I discover more OW contact. I serve D papers, take up with a male friend. H starts counseling on his own, being accountable, a Plan a of his own. 3/00 I break it off, mostly, with the OM.
5/00 we reconcile. 7/00 go to Mexico and redo our vows on the beach (just us)<p>It of course wasn't really that easy for awhile. We both went back to seeing the counselor, we both had to be accountable. The former OW is still a co-worker--and I don't kill her [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] at the 2 Xmas parties I always see her at. The FOM comes to see me once in awhile at work.<p>But, my H & I work together. We alert the other when we're having a bad time or have seen the OP. We spend time together, work on communication.<p>And, dang it the RAms lost and we're both down about it. But, like our marriage, we're sticking with them...wore our Rams sweatshirts yesterday.

Oh, and Trustintruth (TNT) is posting fairly regularly in the Women's Bible Study forum here on MB.

Thanks Lor,<p>For the post, I will go over to the other forum and look for trustntruth.<p>Would like some input into the christian counselor that you seen, have been looking for one for myself. <p>WH is out of the picture at this time, he lives in UT.<p>WH will be filing for DV on Feb 18th, my girls had to be in the state for 6 months.<p>We don't talk much and if we do it's kids or what he wants me to do. Never have gotten much out of him concerning the relationship. His vision is so narrow at this time. It is very
hard to see the man that I married acting like such a boob!!<p>I did call lawyer and went to an intial appointment, low and behold it was the same lawyer that H is using. So must look for a lawyer yet, I guess we are going to try and do this uncontested. <p>I would so like to shake up the A on them, but haven't been given the opportunity, she lives in FL and he in UT and me here, I kind of think that she will LB on her own, but I just don't get any feedback and sometimes the curiosity gets to me. Does that make me a bad person? <p>Oh Well, wasn't it a great day today? Am not looking forward to the weekend and snow though!!!<p>Dawn<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I'll email you the lawyer I used and the counselor.