Since I have 4 kids to keep safe and take care of, it is necessary for me to keep an eye on financial matters, in case the H continues with his fog and goes ahead with the divorce. A few weeks ago, he opened up a separate checking account, started cashing IRA funds and putting them in it. When discovered, he told me he was just trying to do the bills a different way. I started opening all the mail when it arrived just to make sure there was nothing else going on, and discovered yet another bank account. In the last week, our ton of junk mail has dwindled to just a few pieces. My concern is that not only is he hiding assets, but is having his mail diverted to a P.O. Box or another address so I won't find out about some of his financial planning. Since I can't trust him to be honest (this is a really big EN for me) I feel that I need to do an asset search on him, and probably have an investigator check him out. I can't have him hiding funds that should be going to his family. Obviously, this is going to be a giant LB to him. How would you all handle this? The mediator did have him give me his online password to his bank accounts, but this won't cover any new accounts he opens up at other banks. I am keeping an eye on the joint account we have, but I can't keep an eye on all his other financial matters.