I haven't spoken to the OM since October 4th, last year. H and I are happily recovering our M, things are going quite well. From out of the blue, on Feb. 4th, OM sends me a dozen white roses to work. My first reaction is how sweet, (I hadn't read the card yet!) white is H's fav color rose. But then I saw that the card wasn't signed, I had to call an 800 number to hear my personal message. I figured that they were from OM, but had no idea why. Mind you I was at work, most everyone knows about what has been going on and they all think that H has sent flowers. I called H right away and asked him if they were from him, he said no, I told him I would find out for sure and let him know.
I found out that they WERE from OM, marking the "day we met as a very special day in his life". I called H and let him no and I got pretty upset. What a Jacka**! To think that I wanted to be reminded, or that I thought it was special. H and I talked about it, he let me vent and asked what I was going to do. I assured him that I wouldn't call OM, that he isn't even worth my time to think about it. I agreed but by then was nauseous and sick.
I finished off my work day and went home to H who had a huge hug waiting for me, he let me vent some more and I prayed that God take this away from me. Let it be His problem.
So now I am here to vent just a bit more...<p>WHO THE HELL DOES HE THINK HE IS!!???! Hasn't he done ENOUGH!!!!???? It floors me that he can CONTINUE to be so selfish, not thinking of ME at all. Not worried about how I may react to this. Just wanted to reach out and basically say he still loves me. what a @$%@&()@$#%^$!!!!!<p>OK, I feel a bit better. Thank you all for listening! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Mrs Wld,<p>Wow, good reaction! I am sorry for his continual disrespect to you. I used to see someone many years ago and the last thing I said to him was the next time he saw me he was to cross the street and walk on the other side. Yep, I said that. Well we did see each other over 10 years later. Not in the street but in Costco. Out of respect for me, he did not speak to me. For that I am thankful. <p>Now, curiousity has gotten the better of me. What did you do with those roses? It is not the roses fault. Hope you were able to at least have others enjoy them. They don't have to know where it came from. <p>I am glad Wld is supportive of you and that you turned to him at this critical time. Your posts have been helpful to me. <p>Hugz,
L.

Hi Orchid!
At first I had them on the counter at work (I work in a dr's office) because I have no room on my desk. Then it ocurred (sp?) to me that by doing that I was giving them a place of honor. So I brought them into the breakroom and put them on top of the fridge. That way I wouldn't have to see them either! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
A co-worker of mine gets jealous because she never gets flowers. She also genuinely loves them, whenever anyone gets them, she takes care of them. Watering them and trimming the stems. So I gave them to her with the stipulation that she must bring them home, I didn't want them around. So, yes, someone got to enjoy them! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]
Thank you for your words of encouragement. I sometimes feel as though my posts don't make any sense. My emotions run so high regarding this...it is sometimes hard to feel comfortable that I am getting my point across. WLD is the best! He handled this just as I wouldv'e hoped he would, which gave me the strenght to continue making the right decisions. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ February 06, 2002: Message edited by: Mrs WLD ]</p>

My first thought was that you should return them with a note telling him that today is the day that you made the WORST MISTAKE OF YOUR LIFE and you'll forever regret having met him.... your way is probably better.<p>Then I thought that it'd be nice to give the flowers away, maybe to a patient that looks particularly down or something. It's nice to commit random acts of kindness. Sometimes, I pay for the meal of the people behind me at the drive thru....a small gesture, but it makes me feel good anyway.<p>Please take care.
Kev

Kev,
There were so many responses going through my mind! I could've waited until they died and sent them back! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] That was my favorite. I also thought about writing a no contact letter, explaining that Bill and I were back together and happy and to never reach out to me again. Then have it signed by both of us. But as Bill pointed out, he isn't even worth the truth that we are back together. B was just fine with no recognition at all. So, I had to squelch the retaliation desire to hurt him as he has done me... [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ February 07, 2002: Message edited by: Mrs WLD ]</p>

If you want, we can sick a possy of angry BS's on him and take out his kneecaps for ya [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>-HI

NOW YOU'RE TALKING!!!!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
LOL, I love it! OK, his address is 34.......NY J/K

HangingIn,
Awesome idea! LOL!!! That would be so therapeutic! And it wouldn't be like we were hurting a person or a pet or something of any value. But then what if he died? Some poor hole in the ground would have to live with his dead carcass for all eternity. I could never saddle anything with him. Not even dirt!

Mrs Wld, how lucky you are to have such an understanding H who lets you share and get things into perspective. What an encouraging story that some people are making it!!!!!<p>God bless you both richly,
TW