Not sure where to start, so if i am in the wrong location, please direct me to the right spot.
My H and I have been arguing for months about his partner at work, female, then she joins f.d, that he belongs to, which don't help.
He and she swear that there is nothing going on, but from the beginning, there has been pages, (pager), that i have found sexual content in, ex. sit on my face for 3 hours, i haven't had a hard on in 4 days, i miss you, get the idea? he don't understand how degraded he makes me feel, and that it is not just words like he says our marriage vows was 20 years ago. can anyone give me some advice, i really need it. I love him, even though he acts childish with this. He has to go to court for domestic violence, because he knocked a hutch off our dresser the other night and scared me, while deputy was here, he called said he was sorry, and it should of never come to this, i said yes, why do you think i have been complaining all this time. Am i making a mountain out of a molehill? I don't think so, a married person should not carry on that way, if they want to stay married, if the don't then he should get out. PLEASE help!

You already have all the answers: no you are not making a mountain out of a molehill. a married person should not carry on that way, if they want to stay married, if the don't then he should get out. He needs to cut all ties with her including losing his membership with f.d. But what if he doesn't? What are you going to do about it? Read "Love must be tough" by James Dobson. Sorry your here but you are in the right place.

Yes, you are in the right place for support. You sound like you have good reason for suspecting an A. You need to go over this web sight and read all you can to inform yourself. We are all at different stages here, so we all can give different advice to help. Try the Just Found Out Forum...it helped me when I found out for the 3rd time! My prayers are with you. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I figure that i will try to get charges dropped and put $$ away for safety, if by summer it hasn't stopped to my knowledge, he's sneaky, then i will file for divorce. I really think that that might be the wake up call, maybe not. but i have to think about what would happen to myself and son, since he wouldnot have to support us at all, til divorce. been told on his income i would get substantial alimony and child support. Why do they hurt the ones that love them most?