I have been responding to the thread about me. Read it!! Im fine. I am not about to do anything stupid (except for maybe falling for more of my H's lies!!) Just a joke to lighten the mood!

I am glad you are ok!! I know what you are going through. You feel as if everything is falling down on you. I have been through that more times that I can count. Just know that we are all here for you and you are not alone!!!! <p>For me I just keep taking it, I don't know why, I am scared for my kids and myself. I don't know what I would do by myself, I sometimes think it would be better because I really don't have a relationship w/my H and havent for some time now. If I turn the other cheek things go just fine, but I am tired of doing that. We have tried counseling, didn't work. I have tried expressing myself in ways that are not attacking him. I have tried to explain to him how would he feel if the roles were switched???? Then he gets it, for about 2 days then he is back to lieing to me again. <p>Here is the difference for me than alot of people here at this forum. I don't really know if he is having an affair. All the signs point to that direction but I have not hard proof other than a letter saying he is, which he denies, he cannot explain his lies, and he keeps on lieing about major things. He won't confess to anything at all I have asked him just tell me, it is worse that I don't know and it is tearing me apart. But nothing no explination about anything, he just gets mad at me and walks away. Every time. Then we don't talk about it, he forgets about it and then wonders why I am being distant to him. <p>That is what is happening right now. he went on a trip this weekend w/some friends to California to go to a super bowl party, I said ok, call me. He called when he landed and said his cell phone doesn't work there. Well he was suppose to come home Sunday night. I called him about 6:00 on his cell phone to leave a messsage that I was on my way to the air port. I didn't expect him to answer just to check vm from his friends phone. Well he answered totally drunk and said He has a problem getting to the air port. I said why, he said they are just comeing over the boarder and traffic is bad. Well come to find out, his phone did work the whole time, he lied about that, then they didn't even have a party let alone watch the game this weekend. They had gone to Mexico to a beach and stayed the weekend there. He has not told me anything about the trip since he has been back other than it was sunny and beautiful. I have asked but I don't get alot of information. Now he doesn't understand why I am so angry at him, he has no clue whatso ever. I have tried to bring it up and he just gets pissed off and tells me to stop being that way. in his eyes I have no right to question him about anything I guess..... My mom said I shouldn't have let him go. Yah right If I told him no he cannot go he would just laugh in my face. He did not call the whole weekend he was gone, the kids were really sick and my son had some really bad allergic reaction the friday prior, and my daughter was sick and so was I . He didn't even call to see how his kids were.<p>I know this is long sorry... here is the thing. We are going to Salish lodge & spa tomorrow I don't know how that is going to play out. I just talked to him and he said he is sooooo excited to have some time together. Honestly I really don't want to be w/him. Like I said he forgets about things very fast. I am going to go and enjoy myself, If I have to leave I will and he can have fun by himself!!!<p>Ch

I am a football fan beyond all! I was going to write and tell you that an out of town Super Bowl party sounds suspious but I guess you found he was in Mexico.<p>My wife right now has what I call the Bill Clinton Syndrome. "I can't remember", "I know know", "Maybe?" If your H's (to both of you) can't supply some detail info it all sounds quite suspicous to me? I would be concerned for your sakes. <p>Good luck to you both.<p>Micheal

Ok,Michael, <p>Yes it does sound suspicious. This is what my H does. In Nov he sent me to see one of my best friends who lives out of state I haven't seen in about 3 years. He planned it and got the plane tickets for me. It was for my birthday. Well I went had a horrible time, I had plane problems, and major layovers, almost wound up spending the night in Salt lake city by myself, then arriving about 5 hours late to my destination and my friend wasnt there, it was 2:00am in the morning. Anyway all we did was move her into her new house,she is single, and she was sick the whole time throwing up and such, I came home and was just wiped out. Keep in mind two months prior I had some major surgery that I was still recouperating from, I wasn't suppose to lift stuff. It was not a fun time.<p>Well, while I was gone my H went and partied all weekend w/friends, its funny because when I leave town he is invited to two parties that he had his mom watch the kids all weekend. Keep in mind that for 5 months we didnt get invited to any special occations or just to go out and if we did he said we don't have anyone to watch the kids. So here I am kind questioning that and he is just going whatever to me. He also had a friend fly in from Cal, same one he went down to the Party, I asked him how that went and if he slept in the guest bed and he said no, I asked why, he said he fell asleep on the couch, I didn't think anything of it. Two days later, I am cleaning my house and found some toys that my daughter said oh the baby sitter brought that, I said what baby sitter, she said oh Brooke from dads work. She then told me that she spent the night and slept in the guest bed!!!!!! I was steaming. I called him and asked him if there was anything important he wanted to tell me that happened when I was gone. He said no, I again asked him if there was something he forgot to tell me, he said no why??????? I then asked why he forgot to tell me that some strange women watched my kids and spend the night in my house while I was gone. He said he didn't think I wanted to know all the little details! (NOTE*****In the 9 years we have been together my children have never had a babysitter that was not inlaws or immediate realatives) Come to find out this lady was someones babysitter from his work that they use, he didn't even know her. He had no excuse not to tell me and the fact that he said it was a small detail he forgot to tell me, well he had the chance because his friend slept on the couch because this lady was sleeping in the bed!!!!<p>Sorry this is long,.. So the trip was a throw in myface because I got to go see my friend, now he gets to see his. I swear he sets me up!!!<p>What do I do Michael??? Now what????

Whoa Camjon..<p>You dont have any hard evidence??? What would it take, for you to actually find your H in bed with another woman to see whats happening. Do you really need a wake up call like that?????????<p>It seems that you have done all the communicating here, and he is stone wall who thinks its perfectly acceptable to behave like a party boy.<p>Before your children came along, did the two of you have a social lifestyle? Did you go clubbing etc.? If so, maybe he is missing the party girl he once knew. Not that its any excuse for his behavior. <p>My husband and I were very social before, and shortly after we got married. Then came the mortgage payments and the domestic lifestyle. It was still ok but then my son was born, and I guess "mommy domestic" was no longer attractive to him.<p>Your husband tries to get rid of you for a weekend so he can party, and forgets about the safety and welfare of your children. Is this the man who is best for you and the kids??<p>You have sd that MC didnt work. Why?? Did he only go to appease you?? Have you tried therapy on your own?? I couldnt hurt.

scared to be single -
please email me at kj274@hotmail.com<p>I'd like to talk to you...

Shannon1<p>I have sent you an email.<p>Thx