Here's a question that I never thought I would ask. My WS has been acting suspiciously lately and I suspect she has had contact with OM ( see my recent post for details). I was certain this was the case and was going to confront it this weekend, when all of a sudden out of left field she asked me to join her for some intimacy last night. My question is , am I crazy or is it possible that this is to keep me off guard. Has anyone ever had this happen and if so how did you feel and react and how did you find out. What should I do ? any and all comments are welcome

Mark..<p>Follow your gut instincts. I think they are usually correct. Now to answer your question about that ? YES ! Think of it this way. They usually get all excited to see the OP....so that starts running over into your relationship with WS. They turn it on for you..right before and right after seeing/being with them. It's sick i know..but i think thats how it works. <p>Think about it and draw your own conclusions. As hard as it is...try to think like a WS.

I think Sad Daddy is right. But I also think it that they are capable of living 2 totally separate lives. So they may be having sex with both of you but not necessarily as a cover up. They just don't see the connection. <p>...how did you feel and react and how did you find out. What should I do ? <p>I think you should stick with the facts.
1. snoop, don't accuse unless you have valid proof.
2. express your feelings "I feel insecure, it would help me if you would__________(you fill in the blank) to let me know you are committed to our marriage. <p>I didn't see your recent post, is it in GQII?

Hello,<p>I am new to this so I will tell you what is going on in my situation...<p>She has been more active seually as of this whole issue of infidelity coming up. She is doing things in bed that she just wouldn't do in the past. Touching, Kissing and all kinds of things are different. <p>I feel that More sex or less sex is a big indication of something going on.<p>I hope you find what you are looking for.<p>Micheal

The post should be in GQ and in Recovery. The big question I have happened recently ( Super Bowl Sunday). We went to a Party, she drank too much, when we got home I helped her into bed, she told me I am the good in her life and she is bad. She said she was going to end up like a relative who was alone and miserable form years of being selfish. She said she was selfish and greedy and she thinks that she can't help it. I told her that she makes her own decisions in life and that if she didn't want to end up like that she has to take control of her life and be responsible for her decisions. She was pretty upset and said she wished she could die and then I would have everything. I wish I could get her to counseling, but she won't go and I have tried. I don't know what I am going to do. I just tried calling her at home and what do you know she's not there. If I get home and I find some things that lead me to believe something's wrong , I don't know if I should try to discuss it or let it go for a few days. I am very confused and I am trying not to let all of this get me down. Do I sound crazy ?

You are not crazy Mark. As was mentioned, follow your gut on this. However that doesn't mean you should show or let out your anger on Wife.<p> Snooping is a good way to get information. Just be careful what you do with it.<p> jd