Can somebody please give me a plot run-down on this book? I'm morbidly fascinated with it whenever I see it at the book store, Sam's, etc., because I think it's about a woman whose pilot husband is killed and then she discovers he was living a double life. Somebody please tell me what it's about so I can hopefully quit picking it up and then being triggered to kingdom come!<p>Rose Red

Yes, that is exactly what the book is about. The pilot dies and his wife finds out that he had a woman and a child in another country who knows that he is married.. It is interesting from the perspective of...is it better to be the one who knows about the double life or is it better just not to know at all.

Hmmm. At least he dies. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Thanks, Twinkle.<p>Rose Red

Hello Rose, It is an incredible book...actually makes me forget about my own situation but his death somehow seems to make the reality of his lies easier for her to accept. <p>I couldn't put it down.

Thanks for mentioning it, I think I would like to read this one... I read another fiction book recently that was in Oprah's book club and it was about a seperated couple who eventually got a D, and H had an A... Wife realized she could have much more love than he was able to give her... have to try to remember the name of that book , and post.<p>Thanks for mentioning this one... I have no time, but really want a good read.<p>I love to read.<p>Also, I am taking up knitting... I have not bought the stuff yet, but I bought a knitting magazine... and it is suppossed to help calm you when you are stressed or anxious... I can use that! Plus you end up with nice results! I am attending alanon.. and have noticed other ladies... doing needlework, etc.. during the meetings... it really is calming.. also knitting is not just for older ladies anymore! I am excited that I am excited about something ! <p>Thanks for this post!<p>HONEY

Hey RR,
I have the book on tape if you want it. I would gladly ship it to you as it won't take very long to get through.<p>Yes, it is about a wife whose pilot husband is killed in a crash. She was very bewildered by the fact that his 2nd French "wife" knew all about her and her daughter, but she knew nothing about them!<p>It's definitely not a "feel good" book, but if you want it, no sense in wasting your money, that is, if you are willing to post your e-mail so I can get in contact with ya... [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Do you know of any fiction books that are about a "recovery" from an A? Something positive?
-HI

I read it in the fall of 1999, a year before I found out about my husband's affair-- probably before he even had an affair. Anyway, I read it as a neutral "W", not a BS, and I thought the first part of the book, was well written, and then it went no where. Once the "gimmick" was played (the double life) it got kind of ridiculous with political intrigue. The husband's motivation for the affair, as I recall, had more to do with ethnic pride than anything to do with his emotional needs or the marriage.<p>I have no desire to re-read it now, as a recovering BS. I don't know how it would have hit me if I had read it a year later, and I have no interest in finding out.

I have read a couple of her books and quite honestly I was disappointed with The Pilot's Wife. I just could not see what all the wahoo was about it. I did however really like 'The Weight of Water'. You might like that one too.<p>honey - I too am a knitter and I love it. I have really just picked it back up and I have piles of books and magazines with things in them that I want to knit.

Rose,
Just my 2cents... step away from the book!
I read it a while ago, when I still believed that MY H would never have an A and if he did I would just "know". Do yourself a favor and read something else, ANYTHING else. Any pilot or Marine Corps stuff about A's just sets me in a downward spiral... Have a good week, Ladysing [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

Yeah, you know, I have to agree with Ladysing, it won't be uplifting because her husband suddenly dies and there was no closure between the two of them. Just the wife being slapped in the face with his realities (another family)! <p>If you want something uplifting, try any of Joyce Meyer's stuff. She's great. I also like the Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian. Mike Murdock has some really good books out there on widsom...<p>Still, if you are curious about Pilot's Wife, let me know...

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by honey:
<strong>I read another fiction book recently that was in Oprah's book club and it was about a seperated couple who eventually got a D, and H had an A... Wife realized she could have much more love than he was able to give her... have to try to remember the name of that book , and post.
</strong><hr></blockquote><p>It sounds very much like Elizabeth Berg's Open House. <p>I loved the Pilot's Wife and Open house. Yes, they are about A's, but I needed a good cry and these books seemed to do it for me.<p>A couple other favorites (and tear jerkers) are: Suzanne's Diary For Nicholas by James Patterson, A Walk To Remember by Nicholas Sparks and Summer Sisters by Judy Blume (yes, she writes adult books too).<p>Any other book recommendations? I love to read and not just self-help books. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] <p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]

I read 'Pilots Wife' before my H had his affair, and it was okay to read, but the betrayal the wife found out was hard to realize this could happen at that time. I could feel the pain, of being slapped in the face that he had another wife in another country with a daughter. This other wife knew about his American wife, but the American wife knew nothing about her and daughter. As she recollects the past years, she sees signs that something was not right. She feels inadequate and felt this was the man she truley trusted and loved and look what she found out. This man was leading two lives, and left her totally out of one life. I feel this would be a downer, it made me quite sad, with the betrayal, the lies, the money, leading a double life, I feel it would not be a good book to read at this time.<p>Also, I read 'Summer Sisters', wasn't a hit to me. I guess I like uplifting stories more.