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I am in the middle of posting to WS and I have all night to talk. I see you are very hurt and you are taking it to the wrong people. What is wrong ? .... there is no magic word to make your pain going away. Let me finish my reply to birdinthecage ... Enlighthen me about yourself, latest update.

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i a'm just sick of everthing. my marrige, my life u name it ect. i have been marride now for 10 yrs only to find out that my whole 10yrs of marrige has been nothing but LIES, DECIET,HURTFULL THINGS .DIS RESPECT,AND PUTTING ME DOWN. in front our our friends. now i have found out that he is into porn,ofcourse he denies it like everything else he does. he won't try, and now i just found out 2 weeks ago he was laid off.not even trying to find a job. he says he is waiting on his uninployment check to come in,but got notice that there was a problem on the claim he put in and now he hast to go for a nother interview, which god knows how long that will take on top of everything else. i can't stand the stress, everyone has said ok take deep breaths and have given me good advice i guess i just lost it .

That is why we have this board ... we could vent in here and I think this is the best support system for BS/WS ... 24x7 [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] . I am sorry to hear that the stress is getting to you on top of EA and everything else. Do you have support system ?, family or close freinds that you could also talk to ?.<p>How do you find out H is not trying to find another job ?.

Hi, I hope you will keep coming back... please be calm, or try... I know at times it is impossible..there are some good people that come here, that can help you. I am not an old timer, but can tell you I have grown incredively here at this site since October... combined with more time spiritually in my life.. INdividual counseling, and marriage counseling, and a new job, and more taking care of me... and lots of reading... but definitely the fellowship here and the friends here who have also been down this horrid path, that can offer strength , hope and advice... <p>We really can't tell you what to do, you have to make your decisions... but we can offer suggestions, and you can find out a lot just by reading.<p>Read the site, buy the book, Surviving An Affair by Dr. Harley - there is lots of good advice just to be read on this site.. read the concepts.. how to find a counselor... etc... <p>As far as what to do with your situation , I suggest plan a... or staying distance from your husband until things can calm a bit...<p>I am so sorry you are in so much pain, having someone you love lie to you relentlessly is horrid- believe me lots of us have been there.<p>It is more common that I ever thought for a spouse to do this sort of thing.. Your marriage can be recovered and grow even stronger if you are willing to try... perhaps he will not change.. perhaps you will be better without him.. but the TOOLS and the messages on this site.. can help you give your marriage the best shot you can, and that is what a lot of us are trying to do.<p>Welcome, please stay a while.. come back later.. another day when you feel better.<p>I am so sorry, I know in the beginning I felt ran over by a Mack truck... I am also on antidepressants now, and that can help a lot too, you can ask your dr... that can really calm you.<p>I again am sorry, you will get more direction and posts from old timers and even those in healing and restoration.<p>Please have faith, be strong, do something nice for you! Hugs, HONEY