Micheal,<p>Read also plan A missapplication by distress.<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr><strong>If she won't admit to the A then why don't you do Plan B? I guess that I am confused? or do you do plan A forever and ever?
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You snoop to find out about A but never confront her w/ it until you have all ducks in the row. No thief will confess to stealing ... in the fog they even refuse to admit it w/ undisputable evidents.
You do not go to plan B since you have not make yourself as a better choice. If you go to plan B you just push her to the arm of OM. As a matter of fact there is a Dobson's tough love, in which it skips plan A. IMHO, you will gamble with your M. Plan A/B is a safer approach even it is very hard. It is not for sissy.
There is a time limit for plan A that you set or your resenment will. Yes, plan A is making you a better person and you have to keep doing it. The different is when A is in progress or when she refuses to work on M, you have to do one sided and receive nothing. Down the road you will also receive some LB$ from her.<p>How to start them ?. You already doing ENQ & LBQ ... that is good. Have you lists all issues (fact) about your W resenment in M ? Have you go through that list again and weed out the excuse (justification) ?. List specific actions about LB and also about issues. Those are your basis of plan A. I would like you to also get her to notice you ... how ?. I would change my hair style, dress codes, parfume ... etc ... change your appearance as much as you can. Take new habit like ... going to the gymn regularly or run in the morning or quit smooking or drinking coffee. This way at least to make your W to pay more attention to you.
