Hello,
well a few days ago (H) agreed to look at (MB) site. but what the problem is he came in here at looked at it oh about maybe 10 minutes. the whole time he was looking at it i was standing over his shoulder, ok i know that was wrong but because of all his lies i wanted to make sure he was actually looking at the (MB) site and not looking at something else. he had even stated to me why are u standing over my shoulder and i said cause i want to make sure u are loking at this site. again i know i was wrong for doing well anyways i also had told him that he needed to call a councler and see about getting help on his lies and things he does. he said he called 1 her in town, and told me there was no answer, i then ask him did u leave a message for him to call back and he said YES, but this has been 3 days now since he called and i have not heard a thing back. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] it makes me wonder if he actually even called. [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] cause when he went to call he went clear in the very back room where i could not hear what was going on. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] and since then he has not bothered to call any more councler's at all. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] and just yesterday i was looking under files and folders and put in adult webcams and all sorts of things came up. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] i could only see on a few that looked like a apt or something someone lived in all i saw was blinds. the outher was only of a girl's face, that was it. then the outhers was just a little square box with a x in it. and the rest was just a blank screen. [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] i don't understand actually what i was looking at. and why it diden't show everything. i have had it i have give him chanches after chances to get help and he won't. i even confonted him about the webcams and he said WHAT!!!! and then laUGHED at me. i told him i have had it file for divorce, he diden't say nothing to that either. i posted up this to under outher topics but got no responce but 1 and that was to post somewhere else. sad and lonley.

In the dark,<p>I had to ask my habitual liar husband to leave before he took me seriously enough to seek a counselor. He went to a few sessions, then told me the couselor had proclaimed him 'cured' and never went back. To his credit, he has stopped lying to me and our marriage is on a much better footing since that time. <p>I don't think most habitual or pathological liars can cure themselves and do need counseling. Sometimes you gotta show the tough love.

HI Cathy,
(((((((((((((hugs)))))))))))
How are you tonight?
My dear friend, please find it in yourself to be patient. I know it is very hard to do. Your circumstances are rough. But you are the strong one right now, and you have to dig deep.
It is okay if what we say doesnt make sense. I remember being here a couple years ago, so upset and angry that I could barely read. And these people actually had the nerve to tell me to read, be loving and patient! Oh my goodness! How could they tell me not to walk out?
But they hung in there with me, and I followed their advice. I read, I learned, I stayed focused. And I am still married. In spite of all odds, I am still married and quite happy.
SO, take a deep breath, let this proceed forward in a healing loving way.
I know your h was a liar. We understand that. But we also understand that you came here looking for help to keep your marriage together. You obviously love something. What is it? Find it, hold onto it and stay focused.
Do Plan a. Be the best at Plan a and you will know that you are doing the best thing you can for the future.
Yes, h needs counseling. He needs to call and go after it himself. I am not advocating a co-dependent relationship here! Remind, but dont nag, help but dont harp.
Love and care, cl

Hello,
thank u all for the advice. u ask what was it in my marrige that keeps me here, i hate to say it but.... it is that fact right now i have no where to go,and (h) knows that. [img]images/icons/frown.gif" border="0[/img] i really feel like i don't love him no more. he has just done to much. i feel traped here. i do have family but my family at the time is going through some very rough times and i don't feel as if it would be right to go there at this time and have them worry about me as well. i have friends but they are married and they know what is going on but... hasen't said to me well come stay with us for a few days. but i really understand why they haven't. i know there are shelters out there where i could go to get away but u see i have 3 dogs and 1 of them is very sick she is 14 yrs old and i can't get rid of her or the outher 2. i won't, i have no kids so to me they are my kids. i just a'm tried of trying worn out. also i ask about the porn i saw he was going into that was in files and folders about how come i could not see some of the pictures and some all i could see was a picture of like a apt all i saw was blinds, as well as a nother 1 all i saw was the face of a girl the rest was just a square box with a x in it. what is up with that? can someone tell me? thanks.