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Can someone point me to a good definition or discussion on triggers at this site? I am attempting to explain what they are to my WW and I need a good definition. If you have one, please feel free to post it. Thanks.
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Longing---<p>One of my triggers is when my W(WS) is on the road. She travelled a lot for her work and that's where she would meet up with OM.<p>So when she has to go on another road trip it sets off a fear and anxiety that is hard to quell.<p>Our C said it's like Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome and that it is very real for the BS...our C said it was like the reaction a war veteran might have to a car backfiring... <p>Other triggers can be things like d-day anniversary, a song you might now the OP and WS thought was special, a special place they may have shared...etc...anything that raise those feelings of insecurity and anxiety. <p>I hope this helps<p>E<p>[ February 13, 2002: Message edited by: Elad ]</p>
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I had a trigger the other day when I went to pay my light bill. I saw a girl who could have passed for the STD Tramp's twin (STD Tramp died 10 years ago). Strange, but I can remember exactly what the STD Tramp looked like the one time I saw her....and I didn't even know who she was until 3 years ago.
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This whole month has been a trigger to me so far... my WS had his three-night-stand during Mardi Gras season...it produced an OC...it happened three years ago around this time, my WS and his OW had their little "private quickie"...D-Day for me was 05/01. OC is now 2 and two weeks older than H's and my "first" child together.<p>It's been a rough month, but I will move on with God's help and all my friends here at MB.<p>Hugs,
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My triggers are, everytime my H goes to work, gets a phone call, goes out of town. Is not home on time, goes to work early. Goes to parties w/friends from work. Basically I just don't trust him.
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I used the analogy of being mauled by a dog to get the point about triggers across to my spouse. <p>It's how you feel when you get bitten or attacked by an dog and are in pain for days trying to recover. Next time you see a dog, the sight of it brings back much fear and anxiety.
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My trigger is every single cell phone commericial on tv!! Theres alot of them!! I hate them
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