[QUOTE] [I am doing o.k now...not good but o.k. My H is still at home. I know that recovery can't begin until all contact is severed, I hope that happens soon. Is it possible for the OW to pressure the WS so much that WS will leave? OW did it when H was not at home about his wedding ring, he did it. But telling somone to leave their family or else...or maybe just bugging him all of the time? How many LD's can you make over the phone? HH once said it was a matter of catching up to OW's deposits...I am no so sure that is possible! I had some other questions too, this is from a post that I did on Saturday that I heard back from kam6318 on, thank you sweetie.My H too has said that it wasnt me but him. So guys this is where I am a little confused...<p>We went to play in the snow today, he is so sullen and withdrawn, I sat on the tube with him while D played in the snow and told him once again that I was there for him and that I would stand by him through whatever fire he/we have to walk through. I told him that I am committed to him and our marriage/family. I asked what he needed or wanted from me right now, he said that he didn't know what he wanted or needed. I am trying to be loving but I am almost scared to be...does anyone have some insight into his actions? He says I love you sparatticaly(sp) And why am I scared to be loving and caring? Sometimes I think that alone is a LB, even though I know it's not, or at least shouldn't be. I haven't been quite here befroe so I am in unfamiliar territory and need a Lewis and Clark.<p>Later that evening, I told him that I didn't know how to love him right now, and (asked or told, I can't remember) stated that I would love him as a wife is supposed to love her husband, and that I would wait for him and such...<p>and from antother post: Do you think that the Marriage builder weekend in April will help us? He did agree to family counseling for our daughter's sake, how can I get a FAMILY counselor that embraces these concepts? I mean it's not a marriage counselor. And is there anyone here going to the Washington LB in April?<p>--------------------<p>/QUOTE]

Washington LB in April? I'll no doubt be LB-ing in Washington in March, too. [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Sorry... too tempting, even for someone whose keyboard fingers have slipped and typed "fiends" in place of "friends" but that one may have been freudian. <p>YES! I'm going to the one in Washington. I had it in my head that it was in July for some reason, so I haven't checked recently. <p>A for the rest of your post, I think you have every reason to fear being loving and caring. Though by simply letting him know that you are there for him, no matter what, is an incredibly loving act in itself. <p>Are you doing anything for yourself? Are you a plan A-er? <p>Snow<p>[ February 12, 2002: Message edited by: Snowwhite ]</p>

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by Faith-n-Hope:
<strong>[QUOTE] [I am doing o.k now...not good but o.k. My H is still at home. I know that recovery can't begin until all contact is severed, I hope that happens soon. Is it possible for the OW to pressure the WS so much that WS will leave? OW did it when H was not at home about his wedding ring, he did it. But telling somone to leave their family or else...or maybe just bugging him all of the time? How many LD's can you make over the phone? HH once said it was a matter of catching up to OW's deposits...I am no so sure that is possible! I had some other questions too, this is from a post that I did on Saturday that I heard back from kam6318 on, thank you sweetie.My H too has said that it wasnt me but him. So guys this is where I am a little confused...<p>We went to play in the snow today, he is so sullen and withdrawn, I sat on the tube with him while D played in the snow and told him once again that I was there for him and that I would stand by him through whatever fire he/we have to walk through. I told him that I am committed to him and our marriage/family. I asked what he needed or wanted from me right now, he said that he didn't know what he wanted or needed. I am trying to be loving but I am almost scared to be...does anyone have some insight into his actions? He says I love you sparatticaly(sp) And why am I scared to be loving and caring? Sometimes I think that alone is a LB, even though I know it's not, or at least shouldn't be. I haven't been quite here befroe so I am in unfamiliar territory and need a Lewis and Clark.<p>Later that evening, I told him that I didn't know how to love him right now, and (asked or told, I can't remember) stated that I would love him as a wife is supposed to love her husband, and that I would wait for him and such...<p>and from antother post: Do you think that the Marriage builder weekend in April will help us? He did agree to family counseling for our daughter's sake, how can I get a FAMILY counselor that embraces these concepts? I mean it's not a marriage counselor. And is there anyone here going to the Washington LB in April?<p>--------------------<p>/QUOTE]</strong><hr></blockquote>

Snow,
Wow! Where in Washington do you live? I live in Sumner. Maybe we will run into each other at the MB Weekend...not that we would know it! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] My H says that he is going to go...with any luck it will help him turn on his defogger! He just called me, on his way to OW for dinner...Confusing...don't know if you saw that post that I made earlier pertaining to that. Hey, my e-mail Is GurlzHappy@msn.com

Faith, I'm a Seattlite. I just looked it up and noticed that the weekend is in Federal Way. It'll take some juggling for me, since I usually work Friday and Saturday nights... hmm, downside of my job... No free weekends!<p>Oh yes, I did see that other post. OMG! I don't know what kind of steel your spine is made up of! I would be flipping out like there's no tomorrow... You're one steady, determined woman, Faith. I'm interested in what he'll have to say for himself when he shows up at home. <p>Y'know, I have to create an email addy for MB. My primary is my first and last name and not at all anonymous. And it's not that I really care so much about anonymity per se, but it's a matter of internet safety. I will do just that and maybe we can compare notes. <p>Snow

That would be great. Not steel, just alot of unconditional, pure, commited love.