Yesterday while speaking with my counselor about healing, something came to mind. Several years ago I was involved in a serious auto accident. I was visibly uninjured and the paramedics and myself assumed this meant I was fine. After being removed from my car with the assistance of the local fire department and their car cutting tool, I attempted to stand up. WRONG! The paramedics went into action, lifting and strapping me to a back board and onto the gurney. Upon arrival at the hospital, I was taken for and MRI, a Cat Scan and other things. I was suffering from internal injuries that almost claimed my life, broken bones that weren't evident while in the car, and a bruised spine that left me partially paralyzed for weeks. I remember saying to the E.R. doctor, "but there's no blood".<p>Now for the reason for telling this. This is much like the way we are affected by an affair. There is no visible sign of how seriously we are injured. It's all on the inside and unless these invisible injuries are treated we can never heal. This analogy helped me to see that all the hurt and pain from my H's affair isn't visible and that most people have no idea that anything is wrong. We must learn to heal from the inside injuries and accept that unless the WS is told they assume that we are "ok".<p>Just because there is no blood doesn't mean there are no serious injuries and unless we express our pain we can never become whole again. Just something to ponder.
