Hi:
Interested in people's opinions...my husband of 11 years (no kids) dropped the bombshell on me 4 months ago - typical "wanted independence, no responsiblities, loved me but not in love" yada yada yada. Found out a month after he left that he was living with an OW (so he's been living with her now for over 4 months). Told me upon discovery that he wanted a divorce and he immediately got an attorney. We've had little or no contact the whole time he's been gone and any conversations we've had he's been pretty cold, sometimes downright hostile (I suppose all the guilt causes his defenses to go up). <p>I've been Plan B'ing him for the past 3 months - go out of my way to be cordial (and even friendly) on the rare occassions that we speak. We're scheduled to meet with our attorneys next week to discuss the divorce (which I do not want!). He does not know how I feel though, because I have really been hesitant to discuss any "feelings" with him (part of me doesn't want him to think I care anymore, since he's shown me no remorse or caring).<p>Anyway, I spoke to him briefly yesterday because I needed the manual for my car stereo. He actually offered to go down to the place where the stereo was purchased and pick up a new manual for me and deliver it to me. I nearly fell off my chair. He was actually not only nice, but offering to do something for me. It was kind of a shocker.<p>I'm thinking, "Wow, could the fog be lifting? Could the honeymoon with the OW be starting to tarnish, and perhaps he's beginning to realize what a great thing he had?" Or am I reading too much into this small gesture? Perhaps it's guilt and it's just a feeble attempt to part friends?<p>Any opinions?
