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#976889 02/16/02 07:43 PM
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~The following was written by David Levinson~<p>"Are hope and expectations really so different?<p>With hope, there is an implied willingness to accept whatever may be.<p>With expectations, the correct outcome has been predetermined, at least in the mind of the person doing the expecting.<p>I learned, and I am grateful that it is never too late to learn, that my expectations were having a devastating effect on my relationships.<p>I learned, that I didn't have to go through the pain and suffering brought about by unfilled expectations only to end up with hope. I found that I could begin with hope.<p>But, in order to truely live with hope I had to be willing, at times, to totally give up my expectations.<p>When I say, "I expect", I reach down within myself to my beliefs, my prejudices, my wants, and my needs.<p>When I say, "I expect", I want others to be and act as I believe they should be and act.<p>But, when I say, "I hope", I realize that:<p>Instead of demanding, I am inviting cooperation.<p>Instead of robbing, I am giving freedom.<p>Instead of stifling, I am fostering growth.<p>When my expectations are not fulfilled, I get upset and angry.<p>I learned that I can choose to live with either expectation or hope.<p>I believe that I either have to let God or be God. <p>I choose to let it be."<p>
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ <p>Myself .... I am working on living with hope and letting go of those expectations that have hurt me and those I love.<p>Let it be. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Pepper/Yesterday

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Yesterday ...<p>Thank you for this. My expectations have gotten in the way of my growth, I now know why. Hope will be my mantra now. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Lv,
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#976891 02/16/02 08:10 PM
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Well ... with a name like Resilient ya just have to know therein lies a heart filled with *hope* [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Love to you too,<p>Pepper/Yesterday

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Great post...thanks!!!

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I like this!<p>I consider myself to be an outrageously hopeful person. Probably a lot of them are expectations cuz when they're not met I get sad or angry. <p>I don't stay that way for long because I quickly create new piles of hopes (or maybe expectations). But, then I'm just setting myself up for the next cycle.<p>I think that I used to have mostly "hopes". I wonder why they started turning into expectations?<p>This is a soul searching post.<p>Jeffers

#976894 02/18/02 04:46 PM
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Bramble Rose!<p>THIS shameless bump is for you!<p>Pepper

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This bumping thing is hilarious. And hey...a post about lil ol me??!! Are you really moving in Pepper? LOL! Jus kiddin of course. Yes...let go of the expectations...and a whole new world opens up! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] I really like this lil green guy!<p>[ February 18, 2002: Message edited by: hope4future ]</p>

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BUMP up for Nikko [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]<p>[ May 11, 2002: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</p>

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thank you pepper [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]


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