Just going thru the divorce/remarriage issue and find myself drawing to the conclusion that my marriage is 4 life, no matter what. Anyone else been here, done that, still holding strong? Can u encourage me with any testimonies?<p>Is it possible my opinion on this issue may change in time? Y do so many of our convictions on doctrines change? Is this a doctrine or is it truth?<p>AH

One year ago I would have told you that I was married for life.<p>None of us go into marriage expecting any of this to happen....we certainly wouldn't have married them if we had expected it.<p>Is it possible that your opinion on this issue will change in time?<p>YES!<p>As I said...one year ago I would have told you that I am maried for like....yadayadayada.....<p>6 months ago....I was ready to give it up. There is only so much that one person can take. There is only so much that a person should put up with.
Sometimes we just don't have a choice....something clicks in you and you finally say it.
I'm worth more than this.<p>In my case...when I was ready to give up....my H saw the light and we are now in a wonderful recovery.

{angelheart},<p>I did reply to your other post ...to remarry or not...y r there so many opinions.<p>I am not formally a member of "covenant keepers"... nor "promise keepers"...
...but I do strongly advocate the permanence of marriage.<p>With that being said...
...I had to complete the divorce, which my W started,...
...(it was completed 3/19/2001)
...to protect my children and the finances for their education.<p>My (divorced)W is still living with the OM...
...and from my religious perspective...
...I am still formally married to her.<p>As she continues to live in such a state...
...it does impose a burden on me to remain celibate...
...but (as I have the children)... the burden is lessened by my focus being redirected to raising the children....
...a committment... under no conditions... I will abdicate!<p>As a divorced Catholic...
...I have considered getting an annulment...
...not expressedly for the purpose of remarriage...
...but perhaps for a calling to the deaconate.<p>What makes the possibility of getting an annulment... is what I have learned of my from her former husband (who were also annulled). The conditions and actions during her pervious marriage and after her first annulment and before/during our marriage were so identical...
...it has made it clear in my mind that she didn't have the understanding of what it means to enter a civil marriage, must less a covenantal relationship... like marriage.<p>When will I file for an annulment?...
...I'm not sure.<p>Once some of the turmoil of my life settles down a bit...
...I'll most likely start on it!<p>But still... I give the benefit of the doubt... in favor the marriage! It is what will build society to the best that it could be.<p>To blindly assume that a marriage can simply be dissolved at the drop of the hat, demeans the institution...
...and demotes family values!<p>Just my point of view...<p>PS:
Check out a couple of lengthly previous posts...
FA: I found my bible...&#8230;..K&#8230;..7/21/2000
and
What the early Church said about conditions for divorce&#8230;..SpiritofHope&#8230;..5/9/2001<p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Jim/NSR<p>[ February 17, 2002: Message edited by: NSR ]</p>

angelheart,<p> Sorry I don't know your story.....<p> I am quickly coming up on the one year mark since my d-day. My answer is the same as Miss Priss. 1 year ago I did in fact say that it was forever, no matter what.<p> Now, however, I can see myself getting divorced. I even envision that I can be the one to file.<p> YES. Your outlook on this will ebb and flow. Sooner or later you will use the scriptures to be able to let go the covenant. <p> God hates divorce. But, He must hate adultery just a bit more as it is the ONLY grounds He allows a person to get divorced.<p> jd