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#978402 02/20/02 04:01 PM
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It's been a while since I posted. Since X-mas, everything has gone exceptionally well. My W loves me again and our relationship is better than it has been in several years. We continue MC and she is opening up more about her EA.<p>It's as if those 3 months where my W said she didn't love me anymore and wanted a separation or divorce were all a bad dream. She has even apologized for the horrible time she put us through.<p>The only odd thing for me is that I have had several really bad dreams (actually nightmares) in recent weeks. I recall that several of you have experienced bad dreams while going through the roller coaster ride. I never did until after things became much better. Now I have nightmares that things are the same as before, that my W is planning on leaving and threatening to take our kids (which she never did in reality).<p>If I were to interpret this dream, I think I am still bitter about what occurred, and scared that it will happen again. I have been very angry with my W (in real life) each time after I have one of these dreams. I feel a little guilty about complaining since things have turned so much for the positive, but the input from the people here is always very insightful.

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RJB2, I was beginning to think only women were on here. I posted something last night on the prayer room and it took until today for a response. I have since been told to post it here and I still have had no response. I gues they think only men hurt women. Well, anyway I am glad to see you guys working it out. I have tried everything in my case but my wife just doesn't seem to care. She says its just her but I am thinking more. I also had a nightmare. Mine was that I got shot and she didn't even come over to see if I was ok. The scary thing is I wonder if she would in real life?

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Hey RJ ~ Yep the dreams during recovery are pretty common. I had them probably several times a week, and I'd wake up grumpy and angry with my H. I had to recognize to separate my feelings of the past and my dreams from what my H was currently doing.<p>The dreams started to fade...and then we had a situation occur that temporarily set me waaaaaaaaaaay back. It scared both of us, and my H redoubled his efforts to make sure that I am protected. But the dreams came back for about a week. <p>It just takes time, and I think the dreams are the minds way of dealing with alot of the grief and pain and hurt.

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I have read some books about dreams, and there are a lot of components to consider, but it is the emotion of the dream that is the most relevant and what your subconscience is processing.<p>Maybe you have suppressed your anger for awhile and it is leaking out in the dreams. Your subconscience may have kept a lid on it until it was "safe" to let it out.


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