Here's my BRIEF story. <p>WS has a year long affair before D-Day. That was 7 months ago. I filed for "D" 1 week ago and kicked her out because i had plan "A"'d for 6 1/2 months and she refused to give up OM and commit to "M" and wanted to seperate to see if she would miss me. We have small children. She admits i have made huge improvements in me over the last 6 months. <p>I haven't had anger up till this point. But since she moved out...it's VERY HARD being without her and when she has the kids..i am a mess. How do i NOT have ANGER and RAGE at her for doing this to me ? She realizes that me filing for "D" is her fault. I am afraid the love i have for her will fade away as the anger at her for doing this to me and my kids continues. <p>How does anyone else handle this. I filed for "D" to try to save my marriage...not destroy it. <p>Any advise ? Please help !!! <p>If you thought living with them hurts....try living without them....IT'S HELL !!!

Are you in Plan B right now? If not, have you considered Plan B. The purpose of B seems fitting in your situation, protecting yourself from further damage from you WS's A while maintaining the love you have left. Also, how long does the D process take in your state?