<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by zorweb:
<strong>...Then there is BINthereDUNthat (Member # 10312). She is a wonderful resource for they types of questions you are asking...</strong><hr></blockquote><p>
zorweb, are you sure? I'll give it a try. I WAS one of those who talked a big game and then found out how small-minded I really was. I used to ask myself "how could ANYBODY commit adultery????????" Now, I dont't need to ask that question any more. I was being judgmental, but didn't realize it. Now, I recognize my thoughts about "how could they..." as being judgmental... I don't even go there anymore! It's none of my business! <p>I can't give the MM's perspective, only my xOW/OC POV... I can only guess what was going on in the MM's house, cuz why would he tell ME the truth when... <p>Did his wife have a revenge affair? DON'T KNOW! Was he a serial cheater? YES! Was he remorseful? I DOUBT IT! He was probably more remorseful of having to pay monthly child support to me than anything!!! As there was no contact with me or the other child (OC).<p>Now that I'm married would I have another affair? NO! What am I doing to protect myself from MY weaknesses? I follow the
Harley advice on avoiding temptation, as follows:<p>
- Spend all your recreational time either alone or with your spouse,
- no meals alone with someone of the opposite sex,
- no rides in cars alone with those of the opposite sex,
- never tell someone of the opposite sex thay you find them attractive or that you like them and
- if someone of the opposite sex ever tells you that they find you attractive, start talking about how much you love your spouse.
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Escaping the Jaws of Infidelity Part 2<p>[ February 26, 2002: Message edited by: BINthereDUNthat ]</p>