Well, I went home for the weekend and all went well, I think. <p>WH picked me up from the airport on Friday evening. His brother is moving back to the area we live in from where he has lived (several hours away) with his family for the past four years. They were in town until Saturday morning looking at lots to build on and floor plans with the builder. They were going to stay until Sunday and I was going to go see them while WH was at a seminar for work on Saturday (they don't know we are seeing each other again). <p>Since they were leaving on Saturday morning WH suggested that I call and ask to come see the girls. Then he called about five minutes later and asked if he could come and see the girls. Now, my BIL is not stupid, he asked if WH had talked to me that I had just called. He asked him why he would think that. He never really answered him. They told him to call back later and they called and asked if it was OK with me or should they tell him no. I said it was OK. He dropped me off at my car and went to his apartment to pick up clothes to stay at the house with me that night. We had not discussed him staying the night he told me he was picking up clothes. I went to see the girls and then he showed up about 15 minutes after I got there. The plan was that he would leave first and I would wait about 15 minutes and meet him at the house. He picked up a movie while he was waiting for me. <p>We had a nice evening even though it was short and the next day I drove him to his seminar and picked him up later. I ran several errands and took a nap while he was gone. After I picked him up at the seminar he took me home and went back to his apartment after more clothes to stay the night again. We finished watching the movie that we started the night before and had a really nice evening. The next morning he took me to meet the friend that came back to New York with me so we could go to the airport. <p>It was really a nice weekend. At one point we were cuddled up on the couch and he started to fall asleep watching the movie. I asked him if he was tired and he said that it was just so warm and cozy there with me that he got comfortable. Now that is what Plan A is all about. I think I am getting there. I can not believe I went the whole weekend without one LB. Those Plan A Queens and Princesses out there would have been proud. <p>I know the OW would be out of the picture so much sooner if she know that WH was not being faithful to her, but was actually being intimate (very!!!) with his wife. The nerve of him. She would go ballistic. I would love it if I could find a way to let her in on our little secret. Oh well, she will find out one way or another and it is best if it could not be traced to me. Any ideas?<p>Thanks for listening.

Hi Sinking!<p>Just wanted to pop on and say congrats to you for a Plan A Job Well Done!!!!!! You go, girl! I was thinking about you this weekend and you were in my prayers!<p>As far as letting the OW know about your H being "unfaithful" to her (which just sounds SO weird!)I've often thought about that, too. Still can't come up with a good non-LB way to do that. Considered sending her an anonymous letter or something saying "did you know your MM spends the night with his wife still?" But it just seems so calculating to me. Yeah, if my H's OW even knew how many nights we've had together and half of the things he's said to me, I doubt she would stick around. <p>Anyway, congrats on being a Plan A goddess! You did really well and I think you know it!<p>love,
VE

Just wanted to drop a quick congrats on your progress. Sounds like you are doing really well. It's wonderful that you had such a nice weekend. I am so truly happy for you. Keep smiling! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

VE, thanks for the thoughts and prayers. I can not believe how easy it was once I got home. It felt so right that I never even considered LBs or bring up any of the "talks". My appointment with Steve Friday morning, along with all the thoughts and prayers here really helped me. Things seem so much easier when you can stop and think of all the people here that are standing beside us and wanting us to succeed. I am waiting patiently to hear about your weekly date night this week. I hope it goes well. I will be praying for you again this week. <p>Tutter, thanks for your kind thoughts.<p>I will be back asking for more prayers a week from this Friday. I go home again 3/8 for the weekend then I only have to make it through two more weeks of being out of town after that. Then the real war begins. I am going to Plan A so hard that she will not have a chance.

SF~<p>Yay! Glad to hear how well things went this weekend!<p>I saw your call on my caller id - I'm sorry I missed ya, but I am glad to read your update!<p>I'm glad you weren't forced to take any of my H's advice for how to deal with your H! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I just want to point out for the benefit of everyone else that SF's story is one worth paying attention to. She's doing plan A not just by reading the books, but talking to Steve Harley, and she's one of those with MORE self-esteem from doing a good plan A as a result [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I'm really impressed by how far you've come SF!

SF- great going. It is so encouraging to read of other's successes in Plan A. You are definitely in my prayers this weekend.<p>[ February 25, 2002: Message edited by: Boppo57 ]</p>

BR, thanks so much for the input. I wish that everyone here could afford the sessions with Steve. He is the best. He doesn't tell you what you want to hear, he tells you what you need to hear. A lot like you BR. <p>He always seems to know exactly what is going on and what I need to do to swing things my way. After my session I was ready to go home and take care of business and that is exactly what I did! We had a really good weekend. I actually sent him an e-mail this morning telling him how much fun I had and some ideas for the next time I am home. He usually reads his e-mail at night before he goes to bed. This one might give him troubles sleeping. Too bad the OW does not know how to snoop in to e-mail like people here have learned. That e-mail would give her a good wake-up call.<p>Oh, and by the way BR, the purple toenail polish was a hit with him.

Boppo, we must have been posting at the same time. Thanks for you thoughts and prayers. I have found that my prayers at night take a lot longer that they used to, but I feel so much better after. I actually feel like I am doing something for everyone here other than just giving opinions. I know God is smiling down everytime was send a prayer his way. Think about it, we are putting our hearts out to people we may never have the pleasure of meeting, but they mean a lot to us anyway.<p>Again, thank you so much for your prayers.

Oh OH OH!!<p>I forgot to tell you that I found Sally Hansens purple chrome yesterday!!!<p>Ohmigosh what a totally luscious color! It's going on my toes tonight!

BR,<p>Isn't that polish the best. I love it! And so did WH.