next guest on oprah (right now) airs the porn issue as infidelity, H says no big deal, w is devastated

I thought Dr. Phil's response was excellent - right on target with Harley's views on addiction!

yeah, I thought he did pretty good, didn't really get into porn, just simply dealt with the relationship consequences....the guy Tom, was like shooting fish in a barrel...uh Tom, is it ok if your wife looks at pictures of naked men, and goes to chat rooms to talk to guys... slam dunk, next victim..er client lol.<p>Trevor was making me feel squirmy though, I gotta explain to that guy the difference between legitimate inquiry and cake eating....I really wanted to hear from his w, but she didn't say anything. The outcome was all you can have, choose one or the other and focus on that, you cannot focus on both....having been trevor for 5 months I can sympathize though....you really do want to figure out what has happened, and don't feel like it is still an affair, but whatever it is or isn't, you cannot resolve 2 relationships simultaneously, one has to go.<p>One thing that puzzled me though, all 3 couples were about men as the ws, what about women? Kind of left the bsh out of the mix.

Yeah I wish they had spent more time with Trevor and his wife. I felt like it was kinda short changed.<p>My H agrees with you - he wanted to know why it was all WS men, and female BS.<p>My take is that its a show for women, and really, Dr. Phil didn't say anything that doesn't apply to both genders.

I watched the show too, and I felt that Trevor was the WS for reasons he seems to be intimating his wife. Just what I saw of her, and the show. Maybe she is more soft spoken, timid, and him being the one out to have sex and fun, being the more controlling person. That is the way I saw it, controlling. <p>One thing, Phil made clear, as everyone does, nothing can be accomplished until the WS states to themselves and their spouse, that the affair was wrong. Yes, what the WS did was unacceptable, and yes they are so sorry for all the hurt, pain, and destroyiing the family. Like the one WS stated, he is so sorry for all the hurt he has done. If he had the chance, he would of liked to beable to take it back. <p>Wish, someone here would be that remorseful.

More of Trevor in the "after the show" clip on OPrah website. <p>I still feel like he was holding back on something. It just didn't sit right with me. Of course he's still having an A with her, you can tell that. Not sure if it's still PA but still something is there. <p>Dr.Phil hit some good points on the clip on website. Much more in depth than the show airs.