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Well hes just been for the day with the boys and not much contact between us. A few chats but he spent most of the time with the boys out doing things. Glad for the bpoys they miss their Dad.
He did offer to get me a ticket when he takes the boys to a bike show next w/e as my previous plans have been cancelled. I thyanked him but said no - I'd find myself something to do. It our 17th Wedding Anniversary and I think it would be better for me to do something poositive for me. Any comments.???
Jante

Jante, I don't know your financial situation so this may not help you, but when I was feeling down I treated myself to a facial and a massage and had my hair cut, coloured, etc. I'm in Sydney and went to the local chinese markets (which is ironic as Ow is thai-Still, I love other cultures and I'm trying (very hard) not to develop hate because of this) and bought some sexy g-string underwear! [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] - something I haven't done for years! Mind you I haven't worn the darn things yet and H hasn't seen them (although he has admitted to riffling through my underwear draw, so its possible he has - they're there for later).<p>My point is, do something that will make you feel better. If you are not into this, what's your biggest indulgence? Do it! <p>Because not only will you make yourself feel better, H may notice too (or not). Having said that, I'm slowly learning that plan A is NOT about what they want, its about what YOU want! <p>Liz<p>PS, how did you do that thingy with the profile? I've no idea what you were talking about!<p>[ March 17, 2002: Message edited by: Seahorse ]</p>

Thanks for the advice Liz. I have recently had my hair restyled and it looks great AND H has commented. I agree doing small indulgences for myself make me feel better and he notices. My plan for next weekend is to either have my hair coloured, have a manicure or see if I can get into local hotel spa for day- or possibly all three!!! Have to see what I can organise.
The profile thing was that I'd been advised to add a signature that is detyails about age marriage etc to go at end of each post - you already have them at the end of yours but mine only got added after that post. Jante

Jante, good on you! (CAn I come, sounds wonderful!)

Hi Liz- if I ever get it organised you'de be welcome.By the way what is plan C??????????
I've read about plan a and b and guess D when its mentioned is divorce so what is plan c??
Jante

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Jante,<p>Plan C is a modified Plan B. That is when you have children and cannot avoid contact with the WS. You only have contact regarding the children.<p>Hope this helps.

Thanks for the imput if I decide to movwe from plan A then it would be to plan C as we have three children who live with me but who H sees twice a week usually at my house.
Really don't know where I'm going or what I'm doing these days - feel in a fog myself sometimes. Jante