and isn't coming back from the land of make-believe, at least not in the distant future. Hopefully King Friday and Queen Sara can help her out because I don't think I can anymore<p>Had another talk with W last night and I can tell she is lost (could this really be a MLC?). Her new plan 'to find myself' is to take a year off from being a mother, go back to school, and just 'be herself'. I asked her what that involved, she said she would leave the kids with me, let me rent the house and move to another state while going to school. Basically drop out for a while. She said the kids would be fine, they wouldn't be hurt too much by this, and when she is done, she will take them back like nothing happened. I'm not sure if this is just her thinking out loud or what, but it sure is off-the-wall. Can you say 'moose-brain worms'?<p>I also found out that her and OM are still talking to each other quite a bit. Her idea is that since they started out as friends, why can't they remain friends, after all, as she says, I will always love him. I asked her if she still feels that spark whenever she hears his voice, she said sometime, yes. I then asked her what OM's M status is, she says he is working very hard at reconcilliation. But, apparently he doesn't tell his W that he is still talking to W, they are still carrying on a secret life together. So, IMO, there is still an EA going on and until then, I really don't think there is any hope for the M to be reconciled. W also reiterated that it is up to me to win her back, I have to prove myself to her because it is my fault she was so miserable for so long.<p>The conversation wasn't a complete downer though, there were times when W did express some remorse for what she has done and all the people she hurt. I was also finally able to tell W how I really felt and how much this is hurting me and she seemed to acknowledge it (to a degree.) We also spent time talking about the A and what it meant to me and W.
AND, W told me how sexy I looked the other day when I stopped by and picked up S for a doctors appt (where did that come from?)<p>In a way, I'm glad we have these convesations because at I am able to talk to her, let her see my Plan A growth and at least have an idea where the M is. But, I also get very confused, frustrated and angry once I am done talking to her because of her lack of commitment to restoring the M. W is bouncing around so much, seems to be going from one extreme to the other, I wonder if this is 'normal' or if something else is going on.<p>Anyone else experienced a WS who acts like this? Any suggestions on what I should do?
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