My WS has always liked older men. We are both 34 and I am considered very handsome and young looking. She is very attractive, however, she has stated that part of her reason for dating older men (53) in the past was so that she would not look like her H mother. <p>Having said that. The WS had an A with another older man. My Q is I know all of the articles suggest that I try to improve on the emotional needs she is currently missing. However, I strongly feel that she is and always look for that fatherly figure. She is very close to her own father.<p>Is this a sign that she will alway have that missing part of her/our emotional life???

I can't speak for your wife and I may be way off base. I'm just going with the books, counseling, etc. Generally, it is the EN that the WW receives from the OM. It is usually not the other. But, there are some that don't fit this pattern. So, it is hard to say.<p>It used to be WH's were the ones who had A. WW are becoming more and more known because they are out in the workplace, etc. However, most W are looking for the emotions vs. the physical. But again, there are some that don't fit this picture.<p>Are you able to talk to her? Are you in Plan A? Don't beat yourself up over the physical. I know so many BS's think that is what it is all about. In fact, many BS's put themselves down because they feel they do not add up to the OP. It is usually something else. It is not a matter of who is better than who. <p>Again, I don't know your W's thoughts or feelings, so I can't be a thorough judge of this. But, I truly think that if you are providing the EN's, then you are doing great. In fact, it is wonderful that you're still in their fighting for your M.