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I can't believe it. Miracles do happen. I have met an awesome guy. We met on a forum and we have been chatting every night since. It's relatively early but I am feeling that spark, we click (since Day 1). We have so much in common. He's 26 (I'm 23), and he doesn't live that far away (2 hours)...<p>I can't believe this is happening. So far, he has all of the qualities I am looking for in a man. I was telling a friend about it and I was in tears. I feel so blessed. The phrase when a window closes, another one opens is so true!<p>God Bless!<p>PS- I told him about xMM tonight (though I was scared) and he was completely supportive!<p>Shannon

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Shannon,<p> You should be very careful. Not only do you NOT know this guy, he could be an evil man. But, married men like to tell unsuspecting young ladies that they are single.<p> Check him out every way you can.<p> jd

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Hi Shannon,<p>I would like to see you happy. You do deserve it. Please be cautious. If he is 1/2 as good as you are saying then he will do the right thing and treat you right. This includes honesty. <p>So while I don't recommend grilling the guy, be cautious and keep others (that you trust)in the loop of this new found relationship and ask for their feedback. <p> [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>L.

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I'm happy for you and hope this turns out to be what you want. <p>Unfortunately I too must add to the caution. Please look at my signature block. My H had at least 10 women going like this over the Internet at one time. This started before we were engaged and continued into the first year of our marriage. Each of them (and me) that they were the only one and his soul mate. Be very careful and check him out. I’d be more then willing to give you some of the things I’ve learned, the hard way, about dating via the Internet and long distance relationships.<p>This could be wonderful, if you go cautiously. How long have you known him? Seems only a few days or a couple of weeks. That’s too soon to be too caught up with him. Guard your heart and go slowly. Sorry to sound like your big sister here… but having been down the road I worry about you and would love to see you in a healthy situation.

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My Daughter met her MM with four babies, Morman Bishop-----online [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] careful<p>MOM

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I'm definitely being cautious guys. I'm not rushing out the door to meet him. So far we are just talking. I hear what you are saying though.

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Tell him if he tried anything funny we'll break his kneecaps [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Kidding, Happy for you!<p>-HI

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Shannon,<p>Careful Hun. You know my story. My 31 year old husband was also a single 26 year old on chat. And look where that got us.<p>I truly beleive (other will disagree with me ) that there are no "good" men (or women for that matter) on chat lines. Its too easy to be anynonomous, too easy to a rosy picture of themselves. One lie becomes another, and another and so on.<p>Please proceed with caution.

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scared to be single again and Shannon,<p>I think you both know my story too. There are some good people out there on chat. I was one of them.. open, honest, etc. But I agree that a very large percentage of people in chat and on match maker sites are playing a game. The entire internet chat/dating thing makes me sick now.

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Shanon,<p>I never play "dating", my first date was my WW, the onlywoman that I courted. Can't give you much 2¢, but you could check him up with minimal fee from the Web. I started w/ just a cell# to get all info about OM.<p>Doesn't sound romantic but as everyone try to tell you, protect yourself.<p>Good luck.<p>[ March 03, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>

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Redhat,<p>Can u explain the fee to find out about OP? Who did you pay, and what did you find out?

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Redhat,<p>Can u explain the fee to find out about OP? Who did you pay, and what did you find out?

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VeryhurtHarley,<p>Take a look at US Search.com. You can begin there. If you need further assistance you can check with a local PI firm in your area. There is a lot of info on the web. Net Detective gives you access to various search engines and web sites but it is difficult to navigate through. It also costs about $60.00. You may want to evaluate your reasons vs cost both financially and emotionally. <p>I did the search and found some stuff, but in the long run, the WS still had to decide. My info for me was just to make sure the OP and her H were not into anything illegal since OW and the WS were making plans to go into business together. I do not trust her in the business arena and still don't. Also she had insinuated threats about taking my son away from me so I choose to be cautious. <p>L.

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Shannon1,<p>How are U doing? [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] <p>L.

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<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by veryhurtHarley:
<strong>Redhat,<p>Can u explain the fee to find out about OP? Who did you pay, and what did you find out?</strong><hr></blockquote><p>My saga of snoop/sleuth ....<p>Find out from cell a very frequent phone# ... pay www.discreetdata.com to find out the address ... got the mother's apartment. Pay www.ussearch.com get the background including name of all resident & neighbor for the past 10 years. Got OM name. Snooping a fews week I find out the vehicle that OM drives ... I pay www.checkemout.com ... got the name of OM to confirm it. At this point I registered on line to view my WW's cell bill, just as a back up since my WW didn't know yet that ATT mishandeled her request. I also use ussearch to find out criminal background check. Checkemout is very good, they gave me owner of cell phone (OM) and also pager (OM) & work phone number (OM). All from unlisted.<p>Those 3 sites helped me. However the OM, OM brother and OM son ???? all have the same name !!!. I have to meet him to figure out which one is which.<p>Once you know the county where OM resides for the past 10 years ... you could pretty much walk in to county office, search any public info. such as divorce decree, criminal record, property records, etc w/ minimal fee, way less than the WEB.<p>Word of warning ... you have to know what are you going to do with the info ?. Up to now my WW didn't want to spill any thing about the A or OM [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] ... I have to find out all by myself !!!.<p>Shannon ... sorry I hijack your posting.<p>[ March 03, 2002: Message edited by: redhat ]</p>

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Wanted to let you all know that I didn't meet him on a chat line or online dating service. We met on a forum that I have been posting on (we share a small, non-threatening rare medical problem)...people don't go to that site looking for dates!!! I private messaged him, and then we decided to meet online and chat on AOL.<p>Shannon


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