Hello everyone!<p>Sorry for the delayed post, but I want everyone to know that despite all the craziness going on, God has blessed me with a beautiful new little baby girl.<p>9 lbs 4.4 ounces(induced at 38 1/2 weeks) and 20 3/4 inches. <p>Thanks to everyone's prayers, it was the quickest, easiest delivery and the best recovery(so far) than the past three that I've had.<p>God is good. She is beautiful, healthy, and the best baby. I'm in heaven, and so are her brothers.<p>For those of you who were tuned in to the saga of WH or no WH in the delivery room, this is what happened..........<p>WH wanted me to make the doctor change the induction time, just so he could drop our other kids off at school and then be there for the delivery. Well, someone else could have dropped off the kids, and my doctor doesn't normally do inductions at the time my WH wanted, so I told WH to just let someone else drop off the kids, but he didn't want to do that. (An excuse not to be there?) Anyway, he didn't want to discuss being in the delivery room with me at all - even though he said he wanted to be there, but when I wanted to discuss what his role would be and basically why he wanted to be there, he just shut down and made excuses like I didn't want him there anyway so it wasn't worth discussing. So for some reason he really didn't want to be there, but just couldn't say it.<p>And now the rest of the story...........<p>Tuesday before I went in, I was going to spend the night with my other children since I was going to be in the hospital for a few days. But then I thought it would be easier on my parents, who were bringing me to the hospital, and easier on WH, to let them spend the night with him, since he had to take them to school in AM. BUT only if WH was going to actually be home that night. If he wasn't, then I wanted to spend the extra time with the kids.<p>Well, WH lied to me and my father and said he would be home Tues. pm and to drop off kids - and we did. WH's sister was there but WH wasn't and WH's sister said WH had just run out to do some errands...... Well, on Wed. at the hospital, WH says in talking to his brother, that he was working all night long and of course never cam home until the next morning.<p>WH did make it to the hospital on Wed. right after the baby was born, but later than he should have given he was only going to drop off the kids. So I don't know where he was in between dropping them off and coming to the hospital. The baby came really fast, but he still could have been there - but wasn't.........<p>Then Thursday, the private process server was trying to serve him at his parents house(have to serve him to get child custody under control and finaces secure), but WH was so paranoid that he had his sister answer the door and tell her(good looking female process server) that WH wasn't there and WH called the police. WH called and accused me of hiring a private detective to stalk him.<p>Today(Fri.) my WH was supposed to bring our 3 year old(who missess his mommy tremendously) to spend the night with me, and to let my other boys see the baby, and then WH was going to bring the boys over Sat. morn, to spend time with their new sister and me.<p>Well....because WH thinks I hired a private detective to "stalk" him, he now won't let me call my boys, he won't let me see my boys, he won't let the 3 year old spend the night, he won't let the boys see their new sister, he won't even tell me when he will let me see the children. He knows I'm on bedrest and can't go anywhere.<p>And he doesn't even express an interest in seeing his precious little baby girl.<p>Sooooooo...... I'm sitting here wondering what my kids are thinking, that they can't see their sister or their mother - I wonder what lies he's telling them. And I'm worried about theor safety because he's slightly paranoid right now.<p>And my WH is trying to force our 3 year old to not want to be with his mom, so that he can have custody of him for a week at a time.<p>Sick, sick, sick. Purposely withholding the children from a woman who just gave birth to his child. And withholding the children from their mother. <p>There are no words..... (Of course I'm sure you all are thinking of plenty right now)<p>This course of action will really hurt him in the divorce proceeding and the kids will get over this eventually. But it breaks my heart for them. How this man can claim to love them is beyond me.<p>So, there is good news - little girl and bad news - big WH. But God is with the kids and working in misterious ways, so I just have to trust. <p>Well, need to go say a few prayers and get some rest - if that's actually possible with a newborn. <p>I'll keep you updated. K

That's wonderful! Congratulations! I'm sorry to hear how your H. is treating all of you, he is missing something precious and will never be able to get it back. I'll be praying for you.

What a big baby!!! It's no wonder you were induced!! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] Congratulations!!!<p>I'm one of many who's been wondering what the final outcome of the 'delivery' story would be. I think it's wonderful that you continued your plan A, but it was your H who chose not to be there. You let him make his own choice (as usual, right?), and he followed through with flying alien spacecraft colours.<p>It's his loss. I bet he knows it too, and that's part of the reason why he doesn't want to see the baby. Heaven forbid he have some emotions for HIS family!! (sorry about the sarcasm.. but if you can remember, this situation hits WAY TOO CLOSE to home for me).<p>That's wonderful news that your post partum recovery is going well. Keep up your fluids!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] And continue to keep us posted. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Karen

K,<p>Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl! It is a special blessing to have something so joyful in the midst of the sorrow and insanity you and your children have been subjected to.<p>Depend on your support system as much as you can so you can get your strength back.<p>I LOVE new baby smell, so give her a kiss and take a deep breath of her for me. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Blessings and peace to you and your family....
welcome to the world little one...<p>ARK

Congrats to you. Enjoy your girl!!!!<p>Now go get your boys back. CAll your lawyer. KEEP records.<p>what a jerk.

Congratulations on your precious little girl!!
Try really hard to put you H's actions out of your mind. I am thinking of Orchid's thread about acceptance. Accepting that there is nothing you can do right now about what your H is doing. Accepting that he is behaving shamefully and that there is nothing that you can do about that either. Accepting that you are a strong woman and a good mother and that you will make a good life for the kids with or without WH. Until you are back on your feet and out of the house again, concentrate on snuggling with the baby and bonding with her.<p>Best wishes,
Estes

I am so happy for you...what a beautiful gift in the middle of all that madness.<p>What a jerk your H is....I hope the kids get to see your new baby sister soon.<p>Take care of yourself and try to enjoy this time with her. God is with your other kids, and I bet they can't wait to get home to you and the baby. I am glad the delivery went so easily...my 4th went quickly too--and he was 9lbs too. What a special time.. Fondly, Pat

Congrats!!! What a blessing!! Fast delivery and all!!!<p>Too bad your WH has to be this way at this very special time, The Lord is with your boys and will take care of them, and will also take care of your WH.<p>So what is her name? and what color hair is there alot? I can't imagine a 9 + lb baby mine where 6 and 7 lb.<p>God Bless you and your childern, Dawn

Congrat !!!, your strength and faith helps me a lot ... I am pretty sure the little one will be a tough cookie too. Any pictures to be posted ?

Congratulations! <p>Many thoughts and prayers coming your way!!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I can't imagine going through all that. I know where you get your strength from - it's all in your member name [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] . Don't forget He's in control!!!<p>Keep us posted! huggggggggsssssssss

Superfantabulous!!!<p>I think youre doing exceedingly well for what youve just been thru and continuing thru. You seem rather cool calm and collected - perhaps youve just had an "up" day.<p>I had a little one while separated last year so i sort of know whats ahead - my wh was there and had every intention to - i thought it might of drawn us closer, but he still remained distant. Its now 6 months into being a single mum for me and i do still feel so sad at times and angry. But i never thought the blessing and happiness of having my own child - my first - could be so overwhelming. Theres not a moment i dont cherish with mt little one, awake or asleep. <p>I thought my story was bad - i cant believe whats happened to you - obviously God trusts you enough to handle it with him - obviously great things ahead for you and your family.<p>P lease keep us updated, im especially interested to see how you go and wat i can pray for you.<p>AH

Congratulations on your beautiful new baby--such a blessing! I'm praying that WH realizes what he's doing and brings the boys to see you. May God give you strength...

Dear GIIC, Many congratulations...I applaud you your strength. <p>It is a true gift from God that has been bestowed upon you in the midst of your devastating circumstances. He will one day regret what he has missed. The miracle of a child should be placed above all else...<p>I pray for you, your beautiful baby girl (I have one and want another!) and the rest of your family. <p>Hugs to all of you

Camp83 - your prayers were answered. WH brought kids by on way home from their Basketball game this morn. - although he said they may be sick and they couldn't hold or touch the baby - but they got to come by nonetheless. <p>WH said youngest had a 103 degree temperature last night, but then he gave him some ibuprofen and took them all out to see the OW and her kids later that day. (At least that's what he wants me to believe) So - they can see OW and her kids but their mother can't see them....... <p>He's so much in the fog.. He never interprets what I say correctly, he always lies, he is just about the most uncompassionate, insensitive, cruel person that I've ever been around. Sorry - it's those pregnancy hormones still flopating around. <p>How anyone could not even want or ask to see their new preciuos little girl is beyond me, and to keep the kids away from their mother who just had a baby is just incredible to say the least.<p>Everytime I think that he actually has a heart, he does something so heartless that I get shocked back into reality. Our kids are going to be so screwed up, ok, in the long run we'll work through this, but I can't bear to see them being hurt right in front of my eyes.<p>I know that I'm luckier than so many. I don't have to worry about finances right this minute(although I will later). And I have a new little baby and well, eventually I'll get the boys back. But I'm just wishing I didn't actually have to go through this valley right now - does anyone know where's the bridge over the valley is? <p>It seems that right now many are feeling a little low. I know I've mentioned before that I hate rollercoasters. Anyway, I know I'll feel better in the morning, it's just I hate letting him get to me when I know there is nothing I can do to make him feel even one ounce of compassion toward me or the children right now.<p>I wish I could fast forward a year, but then the baby would be a year old and I'd have missed all those wonderful months of her growing up. Oh well, I guess I'm, in this for the long haul. <p>Thanks to everyone for all of the warm wishes and support!!! They gave me strength to get through the last few days! And yes, every day I too have to remind myself that God is in Control. <p>K

I'm glad you posted an update!!!<p>I wish I had something wonderful to say to you. just know we're here, and we're rootin for you and that precious wittle one, your boys, and praying for that foggy H of yours too!!! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>You can let those hormones flopate around here as much as you want!! <p>{{{{{{GiiC}}}}}}}

GIIC<p>I am speechless............................................................................................................................................
Please know I will be thinkng of you throughout the coming days ahead, and will stand by you in prayer as God reminds me.<p>Wish we could do coffee together.<p>I'm believing for a miracle here - remember NOTHING, not a thing, is impossible for God to fix. If Christ died and came back from death and he's living in you, then surely he can do something wonderful through you.<p>I know this kind of stinks, but I am encouraged that youve told us whats happening in your life...I can go to bed each nite, or sit alone while my little one sleeps, knowing someone else out there is feeling like I do...<p>...He will lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on Him because he cares for you. Be selfcontrolled and alert. Your enemy prowls around...looking for someone to devour. Resist him, standing firm in the faith (lean on us here when you need to) because you know that your sisters around the world are going through the same kind of sufferings. After awhile He will restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast. 1Peter 5 (a bit my version)<p>Have a fantastic day!!!<p>AH [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img]

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!<p>Is that 4 boys and a girl now? You are a brave woman! We had 3 girls and then a boy and I'm telling ya, that boy is more trouble than the 3 girls combined!But, the girls are almost teenagers so I think things are going to change real soon.<p>Yes, your H is acting like he has a few screws loose, there is some real paranoia going on. I too hade to deal with that, remember, W thought I was plotting to kill her, thats where the RO came from.<p>I think you need to really put a wall between you and H. You have a new baby to worry about, you cant be worrying about his 'abnormalities' right now. Seperation papers are a must now if you havent already started that. In them you can state who the children are allowed to see and not see. Also, I know that in most states, a psychological evaluation can be ordered to see if either parent is not capable of taking care of the kids. Thats a lot to think about right now, just thought I would throw that out there.<p>Take care of yourself, in a way, Im a little jealous of you and that baby, those were some special times!