Good evening all, I haven't posted much at all lately, just a couple of replies. I thought I'd send out an updated just FYI.<p>I got the cell bill today, and W is still in contact with OM. I didn't expect anything different, but of course I had hopes that she'd figure it out. Her therapist asked her to bring a list of all the things that I've done to hurt her over the years. I sure hope that's followed up with a list of all the wonderful things I've done....though I doubt the revision of it all would reflect too favorably on me.<p>It feels like we're playing a waiting game; me waiting for her to "figure it out," and her waiting for me to get fed up and call it quits. Oh well, such is life.<p>Personally, I'm doing fine. I feel good and am continuing to work out. I've been SWAMPED at work and will continue to be for several months. But I'll definitely make time for some of my re-found loves this spring and summer (softball and golf).<p>You all take care, I pray for you all each and every day.<p>Kev

Kev,
Was'nt there a triangle thing you guys used to talk about?
You keep looking up instead of over.
Sorry about the phone bill, I know it hurt.
You are not alone.

kevco,
Good to hear from you.<p>I'm so glad you are staying busy at work, and taking care of yourself. That's VERY good [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] .<p>How's your love bank? How's your plan A?<p>Keep posting.

OH, by the way.... my wife's birthday is two weeks from yesterday. I have a couple of thoughtful gift ideas, but you know, I'm having a hard time putting in the required effort to go the extra mile. We'll see.<p>That makes a birthday "celebrated" by each of the three of us involved in this mess since it came out in the light of day. <p>Another day older, and deeper in debt<p> [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]
K

kev,<p>Good to hear from you!! Glad that you are staying busy, and finding those re-found loves, I'm looking forward to some of those type of things in the spring too!!<p>How much snow are yu getting? I remember living there and getting hit with a storm ove Halloween of 91, don't remember seeing that much snow since!!! Snow there was fun as it was wetter then here and you could make snowballs and snowmen!! So go out and make one for me and my girls would you please!!!<p>We only got 4 inches here but 16yo D still put her car in the ditch this morning!!! UGH!!<p>Grandpa went a yanked it out for her after school!!<p>Take care Dawn

kevco,<p>When you know you give it all, you will be fine w/ whatever the outcome is. I had to do similiar to plan A w/ my family back 14 yr ago, I had to give it all up and walk away from it (plan C). Life is hard but I made it and have no regret. Hang in there and hang in tough. You know when you have to move on.<p>BTW, this summer if my 2 D makes it to National Championship at Lincoln, we will visit Omaha zoo again ... kind of tradition for us. This time w/ or w/o WW we will be fine.

Golf - sounds like you've got a bit of a wait for that (join us out here in CA and the weather's a non-issue!)<p>Ball - I'm sure we could round up a MB team! [img]images/icons/wink.gif" border="0[/img] If we could pitch the curveballs that get tossed our way, we'd have a 0.01 ERA...

Good to hear from you Kev. Don't be such a stranger. <p> By the way, I was looking at some old emails and ran accross one from you where you were asking questions about God talking to people. I could not remember if I ever answered that email??? <p> Anyway, stay warm man. And build a couple of snowmen for your friends here...lol<p> jd

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Looks like we've gotten around 6" inches or so. I'm avoiding going out in it because that means I'll have to scoop the driveway. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Redhat-
Do make a point of going to the zoo, the new Desert Dome opens this spring. It sounds like it'll be pretty amazing. Maybe I'll have to attend the sneak peak with my membership and let ya know how it is!<p>JR-
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That's for your Ca weather! [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>JD-
Yes, you did respond to the old email. What I was feeling wasn't ANYTHING like what you were. But sometimes, I wish it were. Thank you for sharing that with me.<p>You all take care, I guess I'll break down and go shovel snow. It looks a little too dry for building anything besides piles. We'll see!<p>cya later!
Kev

Hey Kev,
Glad to hear you are doing ok. Hang in there.<p>We got a little snow here...it was fun tho. I took my son and his friend sledding--it was great. Boy, that wind was howling tho.<p>We come up to Omaha quite frequently for soccer. We haven't been to the zoo yet...we will have to check it out.<p>Take Care...Pat

Kev,
Good to hear from ya Bro!!!

Sounds like you are making some progress -- you guys are togeather at least. I know, you have a long ways to go -- as do I!
My situation seems to have improved some -- I honesty do not obsess about my DW as much. We communicate a little better & she seems to be trying & she even put in writing for valentines that she would try couples counseling again --- new counselor, fresh start.
I still think about how she srewed me over & it pisses me off, but I think I have relalesed some of my anger & resentment -- I think I am at least coming out of denial about some of my issues & feeling.
I have been Mr. nice guy for the most part, but I have been very stern and harsh with certain issues that have come up.
Like it was said, don't be such a stranger, man, we love ya!
Peace to all,
HH

HH-<p>Just wanted to clarify so no one got the wrong idea- my marriage is crap, but >>>>I<<<< am doing GOOD! Don't get me wrong, I want my marriage, I think I owe it to me, to her, to our families, and to God to make it work. <p>I am making progress, there's no "we" at this point. W is still living with her girlfriend, and as far as I know the A is still going on. I've only seen her maybe 3-4 times since she moved out back in January, and only spoken to her a few more times. <p>I don't think I vowed to have and to hold until I got tired of it. I'm not perfect, nor have I kept up on all of my vows, but I WANT TO.<p>You all take care.
Kev

Hey Kev,<p>Your still in our prayers!<p>Golf is a great idea, but I'm with JR and the weather thing. Although here in Phoenix, the weather is an issue. But there's a financial benefit! If you can stand 100 degrees in June [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] , the greens fees at some of the nicest courses in the country are like, $20!<p>Or, if you've got the bucks, you could be on a beautiful course right now, struggling through these treacherous 80 degree days!!! [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img] [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img]

Kev,<p>I'm glad to see you doing so well now. What a long way you have come in 4 months!! Keep up the good work.