Hi All, I have a ? I hope someone can shed some light on. I recieved papers from the judge in my Temp. support order, and the order reads this:<p>Defendant(WH) is ordered to pay 150.00$ for support of three unemancipated children and shall continue to pay 600.00$ per month for the credit card debts, it is further ordered that the defendant shall pay $1500.00 toward the Mortgages.<p>Now my ? is can anyone tell me if they think the 150.00$ is monthly or weekly. I could not reach my Att. until Monday morning and I am going crazy trying to figure this out, you see we have so much debt in this divorce that this makes a huge difference. my Wh is salary is 76,128.00 per year and mine is 16,445.00$ per year.<p>Could a judge order such a small amount of support for the kids because of the high Mortgages and the credit card debt?? I mean 150.00 a month for 3 kids??? I assume he means 150.00 a week?? anyone give their opinion???? Thanks the help would be greatly appreciated.<p>
Sad Sally

Hi Sally,<p>I hate to say this, but my first impression is it's /month. The reason being is within the same sentence, he (Judge) is ordering a regular "per month" payment of both the mortgage and the CC bills. <p>I would think if it was non-per month, the Judge would have called that out.<p>I'm sorry, and I very well could be wrong.<p>$150.00 /month IS wayyyyyyyy toooooo low for CS of 3 children, but as you said, the Judge may have considered the entire debt that primarily weighs on your H since he makes a greater income.<p>Jo<p>p.s. We've missed you on the board and have been concerned, hoping you are okay. Thanks for posting, hon.<p>[ March 02, 2002: Message edited by: Resilient ]</p>

Hi Jo, Thanks for your Quick response, my frist impression was that it is monthly also, which would really suck in plain english, but i have a feeling your right, I will hope for the best but prepare for the worst.<p>
I have missed coming on the boards and all of you also, I have been so depressed lately I just don't have any drive, My WH has introduced his girlfriend to the kids and it's killing me, my D will not go on visitation but the boys do, and I am having a very difficult time dealing with these issues. And then of course its the money issues, I am goin crazy with all this.<p>
Thanks for your response, I will let you know what happens.<p> Love Sally

Hi Anyone else have any opinions on this please!! even if your not from N.Y. Thanks

Hi Sally..... I am not versed in law of New York state, I am studying in Canada infact, but considering his earnings, should that not be $150 per each child for the three unemancipated children? I would assume that would be a monthly stipend for each child, in which case it would work out to $450 per month for the total child support, which still seems low to me. However it is just a temporary order from what I can see, so you have the opportunity to go before the judge and make sure the order of support is equitable. The other thing that you should remember is that no order is set in stone, you are able to appeal at any time if there is any change in material circumstances..... hope this helped, hang tough..... fyi, I have two kids and got just exactly zip for the last 5 years.... but we are holding on..... nothing matters more than the kids. Respectfully

lyndy666, Thanks for the info. Its gives me hope that he means 150.00 per week, I know that seems low, but I guess with all the debt it has to be split evenly. Wow you haven't recieved no support for 5 years? how can that be?? That is so unfair and immoral, I give you credit for hanging tough I would have lost it by now.<p>
Your info was helpful and I appreciate your response.<p> Thanks Sad Sally

Hi Sally, In my case I ran from a physically and emotionally abusive relationship, for my kids sake and my own, ... a week before the divorce was to be final, he quit his job.... therefore there was no recourse for child support. A year later I moved 50 K, (35 miles) away to less expensive city, and he decided that since "I took his children away" then he would not have anything to do with any of us..... it has been a real trial for me, but I worked at crap jobs, waited til the kids were old enough (12) to come home from school on their own, and enrollled in college to take the legal assistant's course. I have one month left of a two year course, I have made dean's honours all 3 terms so far, and will (god willing) make a decient wage on the other side...... the only loss is to the children, they deserve so much better than this, but I keep doing my very best. [img]images/icons/grin.gif" border="0[/img]

Sally, I am in NY. Having just gone through this I am really familiar with these laws. I'm almost positive that the $150 is monthly. I don't know where in the state you are but if you are down state this is waaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyy too low. Geez, that barely covers groceries for a week for 3 kids. However, a formula is used (based on his salary and yours) to determine child support and maintenance. This could change once you are divorced. The amount could go up. Don't forget, this is only temporary support. The minute I signed the divorce a higher amount of money started coming in.<p>In the end, you might be surprised with what you end up with. Also, you've been married long enough that the judge will take other things into consideration. Like, his pension and all assets. My main advice is to make sure you have a really good attorney who will go over EVERYTHING with a fine tooth comb.<p>Your H could have hidden assets too. Make sure you find out because half of anything aquired during the marriage is yours.<p>Best of luck to you, Sally.<p>Love,
BB

Oh, I just read Lyndy's first response to you. She makes a good point. It very well could be $150 per month, per child. And that's still low. That sounds a lot more like it. I'll bet that's the case. I have two kids and they get 25% of my ex's salary. I don't know what the percentage is for 3 kids. The fact that you work will play a part in the amount too.<p>Love,
BB

Sally,<p>What a crummy deal...I am finding that our laws are very unfair to women.<p>My H has to pay $1600 a month child support for four kids. But I don't get any maintanence. I too only make $28,000 and he makes $130,000 this year. He has been layed off tho by the airlines--so don't think this will turn out well for us. We also are heavily in debt.<p>We have been trying to refinance our house--but we won't get as much as we thought and will have to sell the houses to survive. Pretty sad.<p>All I can say is try to get a good lawyer...it really is a scary situation. I am praying for you and your kids...Pat

lyndy666, Wow I give you lots of credit you have been through a lot and really came far, I hope I can do half as good as you. I know what you mean about the kids its so unfair to them, its been a tough road for all of us. Thanks for your support.<p>
BB, Thanks for your response, I sure hope its 150.00 per child per month, can you immgaine supporting 3 kids on 150.00 per month with my salary!!! I certainly would have to consider selling our home, and its hard to believe that my WH would do this to his kids, but He has done plenty of things I never thought he would do so it doesn't surprise me. I know your right, we have a lot of things to settle on. thanks for the support.<p>
MnM, Good to hear from you, I can't believe you don'y get maintience?? Women seem to always get screwed especially when thier spouse make good money. It's so unfair and you know I don't care where about myself as much as I do about the kids, if they have to leave their home they will be devasted. We are in very heavily debt and my situation is very complex. I do have a really good Att. thank God. Thanks for your support and Prayers.<p>
Love Sally

Hi, I just wanted to say... I am sorry about ths... you can make life better for you and your kids... without a man! I am rebuilding regardlesss of what my H does and this is sooo hard... I ha e so much anger over being left it just burns me up! <p>I wanted to be the real mom at home with the kids... I am working to get back to this point by building my own business.... if you or anyone are interested let me know at my email... and will share with you... but I know for me building my own business is difficult right now with all the emotions I go through... just working from home, beats being gone all the time.<p>lisaannsmail@yahoo.com<p>rmm

Hi Sally sorry i cant be of any help to your ?? as im in the UK, just wanted to say hope you are ok.
I put a call out for you a couple of weeks ago and when you did not respond i was worried as to how you were, so its lovely to hear from you just so sorry for your situation (((((Sally)))))
Take care.
Liz

Rmm, Thanks for your support amd reply it was greatly appreciated, Thanks. I know we can make a good life without a man.<p>Hi lizzle, Its great to hear from you,Thank you for being so concerned, I am making it but its been a real tough road for me. Thanks for the hugs.<p>
Love Sally