I just recently caught my Wife and my best friend doing some not soo good things together...not sex but messing around and very near it. Obviously I confronted her. After 2 months of talking she has not given him up and swears she is still in love with him. I also found out that 4 years before we where married they had dated and he had left her with unresolved fellings I guess. I have also learned thru our talks that she prriceved me to being emotionaly abusive.ie treating her like a child ignoring her feelings and minipulating her. We have come close to divorce 3 times prior to this and each time I adapt and change the habbit that she has dismay with *willingly* but no she say's she has givin me too many chances and does not know if she wants to love me agian. Im so confused about what to do and what I should be expecting from her. I can admit that I have had the problems she has complained about but for the last year and a half I have been working on the way I speak to her and the way I react. Since the last 2 months I guess Ive been scared completely straight but it may be too little too late =(. We make Great friends and talk about everything even now *save things she thinks will hurt me like the things that bring our marrage to near end.* her communication skils have been lacking mine are strong I tell her everything !!everything!! She has made great improvements over the last 2 months but only thru provication to talk. Like I said im doing everything I can but I have no Idea if she will leave tomorrow or 3 years from now I love her with all my heart. Anyone have any advice We are mid 20's maried 5 years. *one of our first big obsicals*

cody's dad,<p>By your name I assume that you have a child together. That is one reason to read all the info that there is here on this site.<p>The answers to your questions will be found in the reading.<p>We welcome you to MB, look for a post or thread from redhat as there are lots of links on his signature that will halp you find your way on the boards.<p>I am sorry that you are in pain and in need of the help and support that this board can provide.<p>It is a little slow on the weekends around here so don't despair if you don't get lots of responses after you have read what you can here and start posting. There is great support here, you just have to be patient for it to come.<p>Dawn [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img]