Just a question.
How long have you been here?
Do you feel like MB has made a difference for you?

just a question...<p>why do you want to know?

Hi KS ive been here since August 2001 and yes it made a great differance to me.
It helped so much to know i was not alone in this.
I wished i had found MB a year before that when i first discovered A.
I find it a comfort to have help from people going or having gone through all this, and its also good to read the WS side of things and try to get answers from the other side of the coin.
Liz

I'm curious as to why you're asking as well.<p>You can see on each post when we registered, and also from some of the signature lines. I'd also venture to say that the people that are here posting, obviously feel that MB has made a difference, or they wouldn't >>> STILL be here posting.<p>Not meant to be sarcastic, I promise. [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] Just trying to understand your question. THere must be more to it than it seems.<p>[ March 05, 2002: Message edited by: Faith1 ]</p>

Been here since May of Y2K (verging on 2 years). <p>And, yes, MB has made a significant difference. I know because I have a yard stick to measure by, as I've been thru this before with my H without MB and I behaved badly in terms of LBs and not taking care of myself.<p>Even tho I'm D and still here, I know I could be so much worse off. I am determined to forgive, and have a better life. I owe my resolve to MB and all the wonderful people here. I owe them my life.<p>Jo

Been posting on MB since 12/98. <p>MB kept me sane, gave me support, and ultimately contributed to the recovery of my marriage.<p>And I'm still here, though posting less often, because now I'm mainly giving back what was given so generously to me. And it isn't quite time to go.

This month is my one year anniversary (crap)
[img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] <p>Yes, this board has helped me tremendously to understand my W's A. <p>While we haven't rebuilt our marriage yet I am still hoping for a recovery. <p>This board and the people here have been a wonderful source of support for me during the past 12 months of confusion, frustration and, yes, depression.<p>I am not sure where I would be emotionally without the support I have received here and the understanding that my situation is (sadly) far from unique. [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I appreciate all of you. [img]images/icons/cool.gif" border="0[/img] <p>E

I've been here since...November or December? Not sure which [img]images/icons/smile.gif" border="0[/img] <p>It's been helpful and hurtful to be here, for lots of reasons. I'm glad I found this site, but I've gotten more benefit from couples therapy and from talking with my own SO.<p>I'm not too strong as far as advice goes...I can;t offer too much to help people...I just sit on the sidelines and if I see what looks like someone heading for the slippery patch of ice that might sent them over the cliff, I say "HEY DON'T DRIVE OVER THERE"! but usually get berated for it [img]images/icons/tongue.gif" border="0[/img] <p>I guess it's helpful overall...MB principles have been VERY helpful, and sometimes this board can offer some good discussions on those principles and how to implement them.

Just wondered. I know that the date is posted at the bottom, but I know that people change names, etc.<p>I was talking to my boyfriend about this place and he said something like "do people actually get anything out of something like that?"<p>I told him that I thought so. That I did.<p>I just wondered.

I have been lurking since May 20, 2001.
I began posting in early July, 2001.<p>Yes, this is place has been MORE than beneficial to me. <p>At first, it was a wonderful place for information, hope, and guidance. I could see light at the end of my tunnel. <p>Then it became a place for support and advice. I also enjoy helping others. <p>Although my marriage didn't (likely) survive, I know that I did everything I could to learn and grow, and I'm doing everything I can to understand what happened. And I have grown personally.

I've been lurking for a year(hey it's my anniversary), posting since June 01.<p>Has it helped? Absolutely!<p>First of all, I found out that no matter what I went through, what she did to me... I'm not alone. My story was not so unique and in a lot of case not as bad as others.<p>Dr. Harley's writings just plain made sense to me. I believe in what he's saying. Plan A, Plan B, meeting needs, the questionaires, it works(not all the time of course), but I believe that if you want to recover from an A or just improve your marriage, you have a much better chance of success with this site and the information found on it.<p>It has given me hope. Anything is possible when there is hope. I saw others survive and actually recover. I knew I wanted us to recover but didn't believe it was even possible before reading success stories here.<p>Oh and the message boards are a great place to relate to others and to vent. I know there has been a lot of crap about venting here lately, but I totally believe you have to vent. You don't bottle up your emotions until you pop and do something you'll regret. <p>I really don't think my XW and I would be getting remarried if not for this site. I don't want to think about where I'd be today without this site. The people here are the ONLY people in my life that have any idea what kind of hell I've been through. They understand because they are going through or have gone through this themselves. <p>– "Shared pain is lessened; shared joy is increased..." Spider Robinson<p>[ March 06, 2002: Message edited by: kb4jb ]</p>

I have been with MB for about 9 months, since about a month after d-day of my DIL's affair. I was searching the internet for information to help my son cope with what was happening to him. He lurked some and posted a few times.<p>MB helped me understand enough about the WS and how A evolve to maintain hope that my DIL could work through what she had done and return to the M. I have been able to avoid forming the opinion that my son should cut his loses and move on. I realize that he is the only one to decide what is best for him, and I can support him in applying MB principles - which is what he is determined to do - almost one year since her A started.<p>Plus I have met some special people blessed with strength and courage. I think that MB provides great support for many people.<p>Estes

d/d Nov 2000.
Found MB: Dec 2000
Joined: Jan 2001<p>Yes MB has helped. Served as support when there really was no other (various reasons - some even financial). I found out I was not alone in this fight nor was I crazy (as the OW was trying to paint me along with the WS). <p>Learned more about what the WS and OW were going through in addition to my own issues and shock. I was able to heal quicker and better than the both of them. <p>It was not just this site and it's supporters. It included reading the books, counseling session (even if only 1) and applying what I was learning. Not everything was beneficial to me, but it was for me to learn and decide. People here talking straight and sometimes it even hurt but utimaately it helped. Helped big time. <p>What did not help was those who spoke and hurt without helping. Like the visitors from TOW who came with that purpose. See some hurt may be needed to heal but hurt from those who had not intention of helping others heal does not help. <p>KS, I think you are doing good. You have a little one depending on you. How we act and how we raise our families is really what life is about. <p>Take care,
L.

Been here about a year. It's helped tremendously. I too wish I had found it before all the troubles started.

KS, I have been reading here since 1998 but didn't start posting until this year. OP came here
after our breakup and I didn't want to cause her any more grief than I already had. I feel like mb helped me through the withdrawl and thats why I came back, I felt like I really needed to contact op just to see how she is doing because I miss her terribly. I keep reading these posts and know I can't give in to my feelings, I'm really struggling right now to keep doing the right thing. I haven't seen op on here in a long time
so I figured it was finally safe to post.