I'm a member of several message boards. I understand there's always a possibility of having cliques on the board but I don't understand something. This is a board to help couples rebuild their relationships, right? Why is it that the only people that really gets their posts answered are regulars and people so far in the fog they have no desire to fix their marriage. I thought the newbies would be given help, support and encouragement. I've posted 4 posts and only 3 people even replied. I understand the people who posts alot will get more answers, but I've only been dealing with the A 2 months, I don't feel comfotable giving advice yet. Why should my inexperience of posting keep me from all your ideas and experience. Well, I guess I'll go into lurker mode and quit posting cuz it really seems like a waste of my time and energy. <p>The newbies on this board needs you...

Thank you for your clear cut reminder. This is an open site for all to post their opinions at will. Friendly reminders like this help us. I know it helps me. I have been here a little over a year and I have had posts that got no response at all. However, there was benefit. What??? Well, the benefit was that my posting, helped me. Venting & sharing can be therapuetic even if there is no response. So really our outlook can be helpful for us at all times. <p>Keep post to others and perdiocially set up a thread. Don't give up. Some post here less than others. More read than we know. So what you write can be helpful to others more than you know. Remember all of us are here voluntarily. <p>So, I choose to go and do a search on you and will post if I can be of some support. ......oh by the way please feel free to share your insight on other posts as well. Just because some of us have been here a while....certainly doesn't mean we know it all. We have just been here a while and know enough to know that learning never stops.<p>Take Care,
L.<p>ps: Weekends are generally slow here. We should be happy if that means that some are spending quality time with their families. Right!?!!?

Suzanne, I have felt that that way also, and sometimes I post and other times just lurk. I have gotten more replies lately. I kind of feel the same way about the cliques attitude, but a lot of people just keep posting constantly so they just get noticed more. I've only been on since Dec. and sometimes I feel too down to post, It just helps to read. What is your story? I probably won't be on until mon. again we are going away just the two of us! hurray! for the night. I'll give you as much advise as I can and read the site also, or if you can get the books read, read read. I t does help to know that whatever you are going thru you aren't alone.

Orchid~ Thanks for your reply. This board has been very helpful in understanding my hubby's affair. It gives me something to look too... a rewarding marriage with my H. <p>Day by day~ Have a great evening with your H. We were supposed to go away this weekend, but got snowed in for the past 2 days. <p>My story is in Just found out and called "Coming out of the Shadows." Or you can do a member search with my member number..

Hi, <p>Memeber search isn't working 100%. It only brought up your GQII posts. I will go over to JFO and read up. <p>Thanks,
L.