First of all let me say, thank u all for the great advive i have gotton here. If it wasen't for your help i coulden't tell u where i would be now.I fount out that my H has been into horse gambleing, as well as all the outher crap he is doing. Like porn sitesxxx, live webcams and drugs i think. The reason i say i think is i had fount some razor blades in his car hidden,so i confronted him about it, he said OH that is for my work, YEAH RIGHT [img]images/icons/rolleyes.gif" border="0[/img] . Then a week or so later i went out there to get them and they were gone,coulden't find them no where. [img]images/icons/shocked.gif" border="0[/img] If he did not have something to hide then why did he move them from the place they were at? They were in a work case but under a bunch of paper work. He is not even working at this time he told me he got laid off but later i fountout the truth, he was let go for deemed misconduct, what ever that means. Anyways now what. God i can't take this!!!! I did read plan b. See i told him when a bunch of this crap happened 6 months ago that i have had it, and told him to go file for divorce, cause i could not take it no more. 10yrs of his lies, deciet, putting me down, money allways coming up short ect, u name it has just about pushed me right over the edge. I want him only if he will change,But i a'm starting to belive he will not. Cathy

Hi Cathy,<p>I am sorry he is at it again. Now you kinda feel like a veteran?!?!? Hm.....after a few times of this kind of shinanigan, I got used to the routine also and it just got harder for him to pull his stuff. <p>Now Cathy, think if he D's you now, will that leave you worse off? Out here I might owe the WS alimony if he makes less than I do. Hm.......not cool. <p>Let's help you keep your cool. ARe you ready for plan B? Need to talk about it or read up on it first? <p>L.

Orchid,
Yes i think i a'm ready for plan b. but i don't even want to talk to my H about nothing. [img]images/icons/confused.gif" border="0[/img] Everytime we try to talk we get into it. And he never changes. He says he will and does for awhile then back to his old ways. And u are right as far as i coulden't be worse off than what i a'm now. Cathy

Cathy, <p>Hm......ok confrontation even in the slightest is not healthy for either of you right now? Well when that was where I was, I had to go to plan B. Too much confrontation. I learned to limit my conversations with the WS to certain topics. I practiced ahead of time. Silly sounding but it works. <p>L.