My children spend the weekend with WS and OW. On their return last night my 3yo D was very weepy.
She asked me if she was still my baby and whether I still loved her. She also wanted to know if she was still her daddy's baby. I assured her that she will always be our baby and that we both love her dearly.<p>She then told me that on Saturday whilst her dad was in the shower the OW told her that she wants a baby of her own. I assured her that even if OW have a baby she will always be mom and dad's baby.<p>The mentality of this women is beyond my understanding. How can you discuss something like this with a 3yo. Does she not understand the hurt that she is causing my child. She has two children of her own who is not even living with her but she wants a baby. I thank God that this thought of her having a baby to break the strong bond between my H and our children has crossed my mind, so I am prepared for this.<p>She also send her children with my WS to drop off our children which upsetted my 9yo tremendously. Her words to me was now they are with Dad and we are here without him.<p>My therapist told me because I have removed myself from the scene completely the OW is now trying to rattle me by saying and doing these things. She wants to upset me but I must not allow it as I will then empower her.<p>My 9yo D, also told her dad that there was a possiblility of us moving to another city because of my work. He told her that if we move he will also move to this city.<p>For those that is in Plan B is this a typical reaction. I have not had contact nor seen him in three months now.<p>Please let me hear from you.

I still hope for you that your H will awake... sorry Ow is sucha bit__ you know, how awful... Are you kids in counseling, I think that would help a lot.... <p>hugs, HOney

perhaps reality of h being iwth ow ;s kids.. and not his own will sink in... I bet your h does not want a baby with her... and her wanting one will probably scare him too Let her be the queen of lbs , he will not like her mistreating his kids... I know that is true.<p>hugs again, H

Hi Honey<p>My kids is in therapy. My H is still very much in LA LA LAND and even though OW is LBusting, all over, unfortunately his eye lids is so heavy with fog that he cannot see what he is doing to his children.

UGGGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!! Yuck! Why, why, why in the world would anyone discuss such a thing with a 3 year old? This OW sounds like a mess. My prediction - this "relationship" they have going is headed for disaster. I'll bet your husband WILL wake up and see her sickness. Hopefully soon, before any more damage is done. What she has said and done has hurt your children! This kind of behavior by the OW disgusts me.<p>Don't give her ANY power whatsoever. Your children are with you and you can be the role model they need.<p>Love,
BB

<blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by GinnyF:
<strong> last night my 3yo D asked me if she was still my baby and whether I still loved her. For those that is in Plan B is this a typical reaction. </strong><hr></blockquote><p>Ginny,
This kind of CR@P sends me up a wall!!!! Grrrrr!!!
[img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>If it were ME? I would spell out in NO UNCERTAIN TERMS to your WH that these week-ends are UPSETTING to the children, and reiterate some of what the children are telling you that she is saying to them. Apparently, she deliberately says these things to them while he is out of hearing range, possibly to avoid the reaction she knows he would have to it. Of course, this is probably a big LB (I'm becoming the LB QUEEN, I guess).<p>If you need to write him a letter to tell him these things, rather than talk to him, probably better, since this will allow you to remain UNemotional and detached while making your views heard. I understand, of course, that he probably WON'T care, but he should, and he might!<p>Your other course of action is to just wait until the children tell him themselves as well they might! In the meantime, what damage is being wrought upon those dear babies? Could your therapist tell him of these incidents?<p>I would do whatever YOU could to "protect" them from HER. [img]images/icons/mad.gif" border="0[/img] <p>God Bless,

For Gawd's sakes! What is wrong with these "ADULTS"??? These are children, their world is being shattered as it is ... yet to have OW and H do and say these things is simply criminal. <p>Ginny, you seem to be the only sane stable adult in this mess. You're being so strong, just know all the things you're doing, the patience and understanding, will give your children the stableness they so very badly need. <p>For the life of me I cannot understand parents who treat their children with such flagrant thoughlessness. Childhood should be something a person can look back on fondly, Lord knows it's tough enough when you become an adult. <p>God Bless you Ginny.<p>Lv,
Jo

Selfish, psycho TRASHY witch would describe mine (hesitate to claim anything about her)and yours it sounds like.... Don't try to figure them out - you see we aren't like them, we don't think like them, we don't act like them.....