Before proceeding with Plan B, has anyone consulted with an attorney to learn how to best protect themselves and to learn what rights you have? I think the Plan B concept put forth by the Harley's is sound but I'm sure that there are legal implications that might take Plan B off the table for some BS.<p>I am not ready to file for D but I am willing to consider some sort of separation or even pushing to have the WS leave until she agrees to no-contact. Does the law in the case of Plan B separation vary by state? Since we have three kids this makes it more complicated and no one wants to look like they are abandoning their kids.<p>Thanks for any advice.<p>HoFS

Not sure how much this will help, but here is my thoughts:<p>Yes, the law does tend to differ from state to state on domestic issues.<p>I don't think that either of you would hold this as "abondoning", but I suppose it could be used, or attempted to be used, if people got bitter and nasty about it. <p>You could look into a legal separation, which is a documented separation and would resolve those issues you may be questioning.<p>Honestly, I would recommend talking to an attorney about these questions. A lot of attorneys will give an initial counseltation for free. You could inquire about separations, your rights, your spouses rights, what obstacles you could run into, etc.<p>I hope this helps some. However, I believe that if it is a mutual thing that neither of you would want to create such problems and would not be an issue. If divorce would end up being the end result, an attorney can't use this if you don't want them to go that route. You control the guidelines of the divorce. Plus, most attorneys don't encourage fights about children. Plus, I'm certain there are ways to prove a separation is mutual (or nonmutual). <p>In any event, I wish you well, and if you are really uneasy with the legalities, I would recommend talking to an attorney to get your concerns addressed.

tutter13-<p>Thanks for the advice. I will see an attorney soon.<p>HoFS

I went to a modified Plan B in November. I spoke with an attorney first and filed for a legal separation because he refused to leave. Most family law attorneys will give you a free initial consultation and there are several sites on line with laws by state. www.lawstreet.com is one. Good luck to you. I hope things work out.