Was wondering how you were and how things are going with your husband? Any new developments?

Hi boomer. Sorry so long before a reply. I had major computer glitches.<p>I have seen a lawyer and we drew up a rough draft of a divorce settlement as in who gets what and visitation things. I handed a copy to my husband along with telling him he is free to get his own lawyer if he would like. He hasn't made any comment on it.<p>I've told my kids and my family that I'm filing for a divorce.<p>Even though I am feeling torn I think this is for the best. My husband doesn't want this marriage. Somehow we got on a mailing list for a medication called Zoloft. It's an antidepressant and there was a depression checklist enclosed. My husband looked at it and said well that doesn't fit me. I told him to read again because all but 1 of them fir him to a T. Until he is ready to accept and do something about this I can't see us working out. I'm just moving ahead slowly but surely and he is still with Mistress Toshiba. Thanks for your concern<p>Peace
J

I agree...he desperately needs to accept the problems, his role in your infidelity, and the (very real) possibility that he is depressed. <p>It's sad that he hasn't commented on your filing for divorce. More of the "bury your head in the sand and it will all be better" thinking?<p>Prayers for you, your husband and your kids. Feel free to write if you need someone to talk to.

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<strong>It's sad that he hasn't commented on your filing for divorce. More of the "bury your head in the sand and it will all be better" thinking?
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Hi boomer. You are correct my husband is an ostrich. He can't hide from this one forever because I'm going ahead and filing the paperwork this week, with or without him. I know this affair was all my fault but he needs to accept some blame for the marriage disintegrating. Thanks for your prayers!<p>Peace,
J