Im 32 and have been married 11 years. In the begining of my marriage I caught my husband going to strip clubs. At the time it really hurt me because I was pregnant. He said he would never do it again. It did happen several times after that. He always got caught, pretended to feel bad but then do it again. I always forgave him. Several years went by and at his present job he has to travel. I over heard him telling some freinds he goes to these clubs while on his buisness trips. He was bragging how he gets to "grope" the strippers and how turned on he gets. Im devastated. I take good care of myself and my husband says our sex life is great so why is he doing this? He says its no big deal. But I feel like his attitude is "what the wife dont know wont hurt her" He has no respect for my feelings He just wants to hav fun while Im home with our 3 sons. Im very depressed. I have lost 10lbs and I feel very bad about myself. He says he feels really bad for making me feel this horrible about myself but how many blows of this did he think I could take? He said that he will never do this to me again. How can I believe him? He has said this so many times. why is it so different now? I dont want to be taken for a fool again but I really want to try to get thru this. Everytime he goes out of town I will be a wreck! Can a person who has lied so many times finally stop after knowing how much it hurts the person they are supposed to love? Should I give him one more chance? Im desperate to hear what others think. I feel very alone.

Caron, only you know your H well enough to know the answer to your question,however I personally think that evryone does deserve a chance.<BR>If you think you can give him that chance,try it.<BR>Keep in mind that both of you will have to keep communicationopen about this. He will have to do his best to make you feel comfotable with the situation and make an effort to keep his word, and you will have to try to be calm and positive, and be able to go trough a stage where you will feel you're not sure if he's keeping his word or not.<BR>But I cannot see why it can't work. If you both give it a good try.<BR>Think about it and tells us how it's going.<BR>Take care<BR>Kat<P>------------------<BR>Each and everyone of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought, and the gift of understanding.