There has been some talk on MB about compatability and marriage. <p>I tend to agree that it is a critical predicter on whether or not a marriage will thrive or fail. I read this book a while back, and I think it's one of the best self-help books I've ever read.<p>It's called "Will our love Last? A couples roadmap" It's excellent and outside of the Harley books the only book that really gave me some insight into the dynamics of relationships. If you're a reader check this one out. Also, would love to hear comments from others who have read it.<p>Here's a link to the book synopsis.<p>Will our love last? A couples Roadmap

I haven't read the book, but your post made me think of something about love/marriage lasting that I wanted to share.<p>My nephew made his confirmation a couple of weeks ago. The Bishop was there and he gave this talk about religous sacraments and that lead to talk about marriage. He said that he likes to ask couples why they want to marry this person. If they say because they make ME happy and I want them to make ME happy for the rest of MY life, that marriage is likely to fail. However, if they say I want to make HIM/HER happy for the rest of HIS/HER life, that marriage will grow strong, thrive and last. <p>I thought about what he said, and realized that I want to make my husband happy for the rest of his life! I wish I had heard that talk before I had my affair, it might have given me that little extra strength to work on the weaknesses in my marriage without going outside of it. At least I have a second chance, and now I am being lead by the hand with new knowledge, strength, hope, inspiration, and so much more. God blessed me when my husband reached his loving hand out to me and said he wants to work things out and stay with me. Thank you God! And thank all of you for sharing this with me.